He feels it was ok

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2003
He feels it was ok
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Sun, 04-16-2006 - 2:15pm

I finally opened up yesterday about how I felt about him choking me. His reply was I came after him to slap him and he wouldn't put up with that. I said I know I was wrong but did you have to take it that far and choke me. Why do I feel so much guilt for going to slap him but he doesn't seem to feel anything was wrong with what he did. Then his next reply was

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 2:49am

"Why do I feel so much guilt for going to slap him but he doesn't seem to feel anything was wrong with what he did"


Beacause 1, you are conditioned (wrongly) to feel the guilt & 2, b/c he is an ABUSER & they HAVE no guilt nor any conciousnce.

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Registered: 08-07-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 10:23am

Honey I'm so proud of you! Now the hard thing is going to be standing your ground.

You are going to be questioned and attacked for the next while with all sorts of allegations, it's exhausting I know.

Be sure to have an escape plan ready in case you need to get out in a hurry. It will be ok, but look after yourself Tina, and don't believe the lies!

HUGS!