He found a way to mentally torture me!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
He found a way to mentally torture me!
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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 8:34pm

& i KNOW i should not even be giving it any thought - but it really bothered me.


1st off, I picked Ave up from him this AM & he said "btw, i got passed over for the fire fighter position. An old boss gave me a bad reference (this boss was from 2 yrs ago, M was out of work on "disability" for alcohol & depression/anxiety during the time, basically screwing the system & his work, he left off a boat once w/o telling anyone, just up & left during the day & they had the Coast Guard out looking for him b/c they thought he fell off the boat they were working on! So ... he left a GREAT impression with them!) , plus, what you did". yeah, what *I* did ... he meant the restraining order.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 9:01pm

R -


Believe nothing until it happens.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:30pm
AHL also said he was going to leave us many times in the last 4 years. He said he was going back to the US and actually did....for 1 month... It is possible he is trying to manipulate you and it is all hot air. But if he really wants to leave, so be it. I have a kind of hunch AHL will disappear one day. He never really cared much about us, only about what we could do for him. Sounds like yours actually has some attachment to your daughter. If he cares and you blow off his threats, he will realize his manipulation tactics won't work and he will stay. If he means it, it won't matter if you beg or blow him off, he will do what he will do. Just be strong for your daughter and she will be fine. It always hurts to lose a father, but if it was never there, then there is nothing we can do but turn to what we do have. And a little girl having such a mother as you, well, that is quite a lot.