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He got 12 yrs
| Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:32pm |
Guilty, Guilty, Guilty!!!!!
That was the verdict in court Friday. It is over with, I have my life back, for at least a little while. Sentencing was today and he got a total of 12 yrs.---7 for rape, 3 for assault, and 2 for false imprisonment. The judge told him that he needed to wake up, he was not above the law. I know this is going to sound crazy, but as the judge was handing down the sentence all I kept thinking was that I was going to wake up and all of this was just a dream. Am I dreaming? Am I really FREE? He actually cried today, that is something I have never seen before. And secretly I enjoyed it, seeing him hurting and scared felt really really good. Does that make me a bad person?
That was the verdict in court Friday. It is over with, I have my life back, for at least a little while. Sentencing was today and he got a total of 12 yrs.---7 for rape, 3 for assault, and 2 for false imprisonment. The judge told him that he needed to wake up, he was not above the law. I know this is going to sound crazy, but as the judge was handing down the sentence all I kept thinking was that I was going to wake up and all of this was just a dream. Am I dreaming? Am I really FREE? He actually cried today, that is something I have never seen before. And secretly I enjoyed it, seeing him hurting and scared felt really really good. Does that make me a bad person?
I am moving in the next couple of weeks to my new home. My son loves the new house, but is not real happy about moving so far away from his friends. I am so ready to start over somewhere and put all of this stuff behind me. I look forward to going to the new house because no one knows me there, I can be anyone I choose to be. I will still stop by here and check on yall from time to time, and give updates on how my life of Freedom is going.
THANKS TO ALL here. Yall have gotten me to this point. I would have never done this on my own. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!
I AM FREE
Van

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Yes, sweetie, you are really FREE!!!!
I am raising my diet Pepsi in your honour, in a toast to your courage and your freedom. I have tears of joy in my eyes.
Blessings to you,
Christine
Oh, Van, may God speed you on your way and bless you in your new life and home.
Mama Harmony
OMG Van!!!
I'm sitting here crying along with everyone else, the journey has been to long for you dear lady, now it is time to start healing and seeing the sunshine through new eyes!
And me just being me, I hope after you move in to your new home, you find a counselor near you who can help you to continue your healing! Keep us updated!! :)
Oh, those tears he cried were not from being sorry or ashamed for what he did, they were for him feeling sorry for himself. Do not let the sight of his tears ever make you think anything other than he was crying for himself.
Live free Van,,,,and I don't know why, but "Freebird" is playing in my mind while I'm typing this! Spread your wings and may you soar higher than you ever dreamed!
Huge Hugs
I too, am sitting with tears in my eyes. I can't believe the "trip" you have been on and what you have accomplished. My goodness girl, go back and read your posts as if you were reading someone else's life - you will be so darned proud of yourself. You literally saved yourself from a living nightmare.
My hat is off to you. You are a SURVIVOR!! Be who you want to be, and be darned proud of yourself!!!
Let freedom ring!
Pam
Thanks for you cheers, I cant believe I did it. I AM FREE!!!!
I did as one of yall suggested and went back and read my post. I was so scared when I first started posting here. I remember when I found these boards, I was almost at the point of taking my own life. But I started reading the post here and realized I was not alone. It took me about 2 months of lurking before I got up the courage to post. The response from all was so encouraging. I think this board is a life saver, I know that it has saved my life.
My brothers, Chris, and I all went out last night to celebrate my freedom. I had so much fun, I laughed so much that my ribs are sore today. I have to come back to reality now though, I have a lot of work ahead of me. And yes Buff, I am planning on finding counseling near my new home. I know that I have alot of issues that I need to deal with. My head is still real messed up.
If there are any lurkers reading this post, and you feel that there is no way out, trust me, there is. If I can do it, than anyone can.
Thanks again to all who have helped me on this journey of mine.
Van
Mel
Run far, and run fast, and don't *ever* let him find you.
You know as well as I do, after those 12 years are up, he will come looking for you. Make sure you just disappear. Don't trust *anyone* who claims to be "not taking sides" in this situation. If a former mutual friend of yours tells you that they would like to continue being friends with both of you . . . DON'T LET THEM!!! Even the most well-meaning people slip up sometimes, and honey you've worked *way* too hard to risk that.
Use his time in prison to finalize your divorce (if you haven't already) and begin your new life without the pain and fear that you've become so used to. I remember sitting at my computer just BAWLING when I was following your story when you first started posting. I know how you felt then, and I know how you feel now. You've come so far . . . don't let him anywhere near you, ever again!
Love & Hugs,
Emm
I am so proud of you, being here with you watching you fight has been an awesome experiance. You are the strongest woman I have ever met. I Love you and will always be here for you. You are a wonderful and beautiful person. Stand proud Van, you deserve it.
Love
Chris
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