he has been contacting me

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Registered: 05-03-2003
he has been contacting me
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 6:23am
It has been a couple days since I last posted. He has been contacting me on a daily basis about our son. I do have the RO against him so really he is not suppose to contact me at all. He keeps telling me he want to see his son so I felt bad and told him he could pick him up last Sunday. Instead of picking him up he got dropped off at my house. He came in my house went right for my cell phone to see who is calling me. Then started calling me all sorts of names in front of my son. He than told my son to tell everyone in school I am a f***** drunk. I went balistic and told him to leave or I will call the police. He left said don't call me I said the same. He calls on Tues 10 times in a row. I told in to leave me alone he starts telling me again he wants to talk and see his son. Again I told him to leave me alone and stop calling. Wed same thing. I started thinking maybe I am being a little unreasonable and maybe should here him out. He was ok we talked about our son for a little bit. I told him that it is very hard for me right know because I am very hurt and bitter about the whole thing. I told him again if he wanted to see his son he could pick him up for a few hours. He never did and called at 9:00 at night to say goodnite to my son. My son is 5 and goes to bed at 8 and he knows that. Well yesterday I felt bad and called him back and we got into a huge fight about everything. I asked him if he was so concerned about our son and seeing him where was he the night before and how come he did not pick him up. I ended up hanging up on him and told him not to call me again. He called again last night and I flipped out. I told him that I am tried of his mind games and bull Sh** and that he needs to leave me alone so I can move on with my life. It is too hard for me to do this if he is calling me everyday. He starts again about how he wants to see his son. I told him that I have given you plently of opportunities to see him and if you really wanted to he could have first picked him up last sunday instead of coming in my house harrassing me and he could have picked him up on Wed nite in which he did not. I told him I am tired of him using my son as a ploy to get to me. I told him you have a new girlfriend so just move on and do not worry about us and hung up. After all this I went down to the police station to file a complaint that he violated the restraining order. I feel bad for doing this but he just will not leave me alone. I did change my cell number too. I hope he gets the hint this time.