he just called

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Registered: 03-26-2004
he just called
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:59am
He just called me to let me know what i did last night. He new what time i got home, what time my son got home. he even knew that i got on the computer about 2am. This is not the 1st time he has done this, he always likes to let me know when he has been watching me. he is so angry that i changed the locks on the door last night. he probably tried to get in but couldnt. That only means that he is really angry now. i really probably should not rock the boat but i am so tired of him coming over, maybe if i piss him off enough he will end it for me. or maybe i will get really lucky and he will give up and leave me alone. (i seriously doubt it) I am going to my friends tonight. I am going straight over from work so he cant follow me. It will be nice to have a night or 2 of peace. I will cut my cel off so he has no way to contact me. Hopefully this will give me time to think and figure out my next step. I know that i will not let him touch me again, i cant, i would rather die.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 4:08pm
hurting~

I really don't have much to say or any sound advice to give...but I just wanted to let you know that I've been reading your posts and am praying for you. You must find a way to safely get away from this man...he is the SCARIEST type of abuser and it sounds like he will not leave you alone under any circumstances. Please start reaching out to any sort of contact....womens' shelter, police, friends, anything or anyone that can keep you safe!!

big hugs

dharma

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 4:26pm
Thank you Dharma

I was beginning to feel like no one believes me. Your prayers are greatly appreciated. i dont think there is a way for me to get out. He always finds me, it may take him a month it might take him 6 months, but he always finds me. Each time i leave he gets that much madder, the harder i try to get away the harder he works at finding me. I have called the police in the past, it doesnt do any good. he has money and can afford the best lawyers. i have nothing and cant afford any lawyer. i guess for now i just have to try to make sure that i am never at home alone, or anywhere alone. He never bothers me when anyone is around especially my son. thanks again for your prayers

Van

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 5:11pm
Hurting~

Please dont ever think that the lack of response means that people here don't believe you. There are several things that could be going on.....weekends are hard to post for some, sometimes its just a slow day, sometimes some of us just don't know what to say...or some of us are just so enveloped in our current situation/pain. But don't think for minute we don't believe you....TRUST ME, WE ALL believe you.

Someone in your last thread suggested a couple of books about getting away from a stalker...I would suggest you get them. Women have LEFT situations like this before, but I'm sure it is NOT easy...but it can be done. It may have been the officer you've talked to that didn't help...keep trying. You didn't say if you were in a small town or a big city...sometimes that makes a difference too. As for lawyers....again, it depends what type of town you are in...but if you are by universities, chances are there is a law school somewhere and they usually have free legal services..and they are up to date on the latest DOMESTIC ABUSE laws and info. Check out that possibility.

There is a chat tomorrow evening at 7 pm for the women of this board...try to come to it. there is a link towards the top of this page that will connect you to it.

Please keep posting...

dharma

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 5:38pm
Dharma,

I now live in a very small town, but i have lived in both in my travels. I have a great boss who transfers me whenever i request a transfer. I thinks she knows but is afraid to get involved which is okay, i do understand. but i really like the store that i am at now. He doesnt to my knowledge no where i work now. i drive 54 miles one way to get to work, i figure the further i have to drive though traffic the better chance of him not being able to follow me. i have been at this store since mid january, and he hasnt been here harrassing me. he was so angry when he called this morning, i really am afraid of what is going to happen next. i have seriously thought about just giving in to avoid a serious confrontation with him but i know that his phone call this morning was to scare me into doing just that. i dont want to give in to him. i hate myself when i do. i wish that i was not so weak. i wish..... i cant, i wont. thanks for listening to me rant a little. maybe someday i will have something good to say about my life.

Van