He is pending charge for battery domestic violence, I'm confused and so hurt, need support

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Registered: 07-18-2008
He is pending charge for battery domestic violence, I'm confused and so hurt, need support
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 4:27pm

Hi, I posted about my relationship on this site before...

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Registered: 01-03-2011
You need to establish a pattern of abuse, so disclosure of him forcing you to have sex with other people could go two ways: either it reinforces the pattern or your ex says yall were swingers and it was purely consensual. Unfortunately, because its he said/she said in that (unless you have video, pics or an acknowledgment from him that says otherwise) it will be disregarded.

I've been there. My first boyfriend did the same thing. He would find men on craigslist and was constantly trying to "sell" me to other men so he could watch and then become jealous. Its a power thing for them. It keeps you under their control.

I say, just wait it out and see what the judge says. Make sure to say he's been texting you even with the TRO in place as that is a violation.

Good luck.
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Registered: 01-25-2010

tHIS GUY IS VERY DANGEROUS.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-28-2001

Hi Kitty, and welcome back.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 09-06-2007

"the sexual abuse that you've endured is very serious.

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Registered: 01-12-2001

Hi, I am a survivor.