He put my baby in danger today...

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Registered: 04-21-2003
He put my baby in danger today...
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 2:25pm
We were fighting. I was crying. He had my daughter with her this morning, pulled the car up to the house, walked to the house door with her still in the car to give me coffee. Raged at me and stormed out the door. I cried. Luckily I looked outside after a few minutes - there she was all alone in the car - he had left her in the car on the street and stormed off and driven another car away. He didn't tell me. If I had not looked up she would have been in that car for God knows how long on the street!!!! I ran to hurt she was drenched in sweat. It is 80 degrees here and he had her in long pjs with feet and a sweater - all the windows closed. I hate him. I hate him. I can't find my credit card but I have a little cash and am going to leave the house now. I will come back another day to pack. I know someone suggested a shelter but I am embarrased. We have been on tv and I feel like everyone knows us. Made a scene in front of the neighbors again I am sure. My daughter by the way is just a baby. He left my baby in the car. Thanks for listening.
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 3:43pm

Do not feel embarrased to leave the house and his abusiveness. He is the worst thing for you and the baby. You need to leave now and not go back to him. He will persuade you and persuade you to go back to him. Do not believe any of it. He will not change his ways, he is not sorry and he will do it again. It is only going to get worse and worse if you continue to stay with this man. He is evil.

Go to a shelter. You will be safe there. You are in danger and that is where you will be safe. If you do go back to the house and pick more stuff up, you MUST and I mean MUST bring someone with you. Call the police, and get a police officer to go with you to the house. He is dangerous and you cannot go back to the house alone. You might feel embarassed to do that, but please try not to. It is the best thing to do.

I totally understand if you feel very ashamed and embarassed. I have too been in your shoes. I was terrifed when I left the house. I had no idea what to expect. But I did know one thing. It was the best thing for me and I knew I made the right choice no matter how hard it was for me.

Please take my advice. Good Luck to you. Keep us posted.
Lauren

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 3:48pm

Don't be embarrassed to go to a shelter. That's what they are there for. They understand, and will protect your privacy.

It's doubly important to get out if he is abusing your child. Not to try to scare anyone, but some states consider it a crime if a child is in an abusive situation and the other parent doesn't take steps to remove the child. Meaning, it is possible in some states to be charged with a crime if you stay and keep your child in that situation! And you don't want that- your child needs you.

The shelter is where you absolutely need to go. They will help you get a police escort to go back and get your stuff- DON'T go alone, as the other poster said. Stay safe, and do keep us posted.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 12:04pm
sweetheart...even if you are embarrassed, do what you have to do anyway. Because all you have to do is get THROUGH this time, then you can put it behind you and move on to better things. If you don't do what you need to do now to protect yourself, this will drag on even longer. I know it can be difficult to deal with having been on TV, but as a person who handles public relations for the domestic violence shelter in my county, believe me, very few people will remember you, they aren't going to make the link. We have a few very notorious cases here in my county and the general public barely remembers the overall picture of these things, much less the names of the people involved or what they look like. You can your baby deserve help, there are people out there who are just waiting to help you, who will cheer you on, and celebrate your victories. Just get THROUGH it. It will have to happen anyway - sooner or later. The sooner you start, the sooner you both will have a much better life. The embarassment will go away and will be just a memory - in the past. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 5:25pm

Sam, please, on your daughter's life report this to the police.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 10:58pm

Sam, I know you may have calmed down & may think its harsh, but what he did COULD HAVE KILLED YOUR BABY! I am an L&D/Pedi RN.

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