He ruined my birthday!

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Registered: 04-14-2003
He ruined my birthday!
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 12:19pm
I dont even know how it started. All I know is the night before he went out with a friend and went drinking and spent all his money. He was supposed to do something for my birthday like take me out to dinner or make me dinner something. Well so the day of my birthday he sleeps like all day long. I finally wake him up at like 7pm and tell him that hes going to sleep my birthday away. So he wakes up like an hour after that and starts watching TV, doesnt even say anything about what were going to do for my birthday. So I start to get upset and I finally ask him. And hes like well what can we do? And I said I thought you were going to take me out to dinner or something and he said well I dont have any money. So I just leave the living room and go in my bedroom. I was so depressed. I just wanted to go to sleep and have that day over with. Well he comes in my room like 30 minutes later mad at me because Im upset. Hes all like you dont have to come in here and pout like a baby. And I just told him to leave me alone that I wanted to go to sleep. About an hour later I go back out to the living room to check my email to see if I got any ecards from my family which I did but I didnt get one from him. He could have at least sent me a card. While Im sitting reading my email he starts yelling at me and I cant even remember about what then he takes a pillow and hits me with it hard over my head and the second time he knocked over a dolphin figurine of mine and broke it. I was caught off guard, He just yells and yells. And I tell him to get out and I start to walk away and then he grabs me and pushes me against the wall and pretends like hes going to hit me but I didnt flinch so he starts laughing at me. I tell him again to get out and Im going to call the police if he doesnt leave. I start to go into my bedroom and he starts hitting me with the pillow again and Im screaming at him to stop. He said he was going to hit me in the face and I told him go ahead so when I call the cops they will see it. So then he told me he would just punch me in my stomach so it wouldnt leave a mark. I hate him. I cant do anything. I cant ever call the cops on him he makes me afraid to do that. He always says if he goes to jail then Im going with him. So I go in my room because he says hes not going to leave. So he follows me and starts saying mean things to me. He called me a disgusting ugly fat pig. And he was all in my face saying it over and over again and I tried not to cry because I didnt want him to know that it was hurting me but he kept saying it until I started to cry and pleaded with him to stop. I even tried to pull the covers over me so he couldnt see me and he took them away from me and said you cant hide your fat ugly body. I was so upset and I was so mad that I let him see me cry. He wouldnt leave me alone. I would try to get away by leaving the room and he would follow me and just keep laughing at me and saying those words over and over. Its now like midnight and I remember thinking to myself what a great birthday but now its over. He took my purse and my keys and my cell phone so I couldnt even leave or call anyone not that I would call anyone because I cant really. I cant call my friends or Mom because they all think Im stupid and they are right. I want him to get out of my life so bad. I hate him so much. He just hangs around all day in my apartment, eats all my food and doesnt pay for anything. I got fired from my job because of him very long story so I dont have a job and my Mom has been paying my bills if she knew he was here she would kill me and probably stop helping me. He just uses me, he knows I dont have any money and he eats whatever food I have that my mom gives me money to buy and then there is nothing left. I bought a 2 liter of coke last night and I didnt even have one glass and its all gone. He drank the whole thing. He uses my water and watches my TV and he doesnt pay for anything and he wont leave. And if I go fill out an injunction it will just make him mad and he will just come after me. That paper doesnt protect you. He knows he cant come near me but that wont stop him from doing other things to me. He will call and herrass my Mom and my friends. He will make my life hell. I cant get away from him. I cant move I have no money to move. I want to leave the state but I cant. If I call the police they will just laugh at me because they have been here before because of him. And the times I have called them they treated me horrible. I got away from him once before. and he tormented me. I was afraid to go to sleep, I was afraid he would break in. I was afraid he was going to jump me if I left my house. I was always scared. I should have never got back with him but either way is horrible. Why cant he just leave? I know because he has it made here. He doesnt have to do anything. I tell him Its over and I want him to leave and he just says NO I have no place to go. I think about going and filing a restraining order and have the cops come and make him leave but it will just make him more angry. Im stuck and I dont know what to do and I dont have anyone I can talk to or anyone that can help me.

Melysa

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 3:34pm

Mel,


What he did to you last night is assault, you could have called the cops, and they would have come out.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 5:20pm
*~*~HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY, MELYSA*~*~*

I'm sorry your h was such a louse on your birthday....I have plenty of birthday and holiday memories similar to yours, minus the physical stuff.

Listen to the other posters...and PLEASE contact the police. This was ASSAULT, even if he did NOT leave bruises. And since he's already pushed it to physical contact, chances are it will continue to escalate!!

big hugs!

dharma

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 9:04am
Melysa: I'm coming out of lurking to 1) send you some love which it sounds like you desperately need, 2) wish you a belated happy birthday, and 3) ask you to get out of this relationship. You so don't need this in your life. Apply for a restraining order and get this louse out of your home. You would have been so much better off spending your birthday alone that with what you put up with last night. Please, please take care of yourself and make some positive changes. We don't want you to live like this anymore. Love and hugs to you!

mo 7-18-10