he says I need depression medicine

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Registered: 04-12-2003
he says I need depression medicine
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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 1:26am

Hi everyone,

A few days ago I posted about talking to my dh's psychiatrist to mention to him that my dh is not improving. It was in vain because the psychiatrist said I would need to be part of a session and I am just to afraid of the consequences. Coincidentally dh had an appointment with same doc later that evening. In the morning dh mentioned to me how the psychtriast has mentioned a particular medicine that helped with depression and muscle pain (I've had back problems all my life) and dh suggested I make an appointment with his doc so the doc can put me on this medicine. I found it interesting that dh brought this up because something must have been said at the session about me and the end result is for me to go on medication and it will make everything better. I do admit I've been pretty lifeless but if I show any signs of opinion or life, he is all over me. He will find something to pick at, so the best thing is to not show any emotion at all when he is around and just go through the motions...in the meantime, I am hoping next week to talk to a domestic abuse counselor...thanks for letting me vent....

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 10:39am

He thinks he's sly, doesn't he? He works hard to keep you from feeling happy, then acts like you're sick because you have depressive symptoms. Remember that reality is always optional with abusers. And yes, if he can't pull his shrink into it, he'll say he did. Do NOT believe anything he says the shrink said about you. If you decide at some point that antidepressants are a tool you'd like to use, go to a different doc. This guy's mind may be irreparably poisoned against you.

As for his holding down your happiness and your energy, you're not alone. Pinnochio did that to me all the time. My optimism and hope freaked him out. I'm sure others will say the same. Stay strong, get into that counselor's office and throw it all on the table. Take care, Diana.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 2:27pm
I agree w/gonna.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 08-24-2004
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 11:34pm
That's exactly what I told you would happen. I posted to you a few days ago that the psychiatrist and your husband would think up things for you do to prevent his abuse. If you have concerns about needing medication for depression, you should see a different psychiatrist on your own.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 9:05pm

I would hope that no doctor would recommend a drug based upon talking to the spouse - that sounds ridiculous! Hello, we're grown and can find our own doctors!

That being said, if you feel as though medicine would help, see your own physician. You do not have to see a psychiatrist to be prescribed an anti-depressant, and if you get regular medical care, your own doctor would know you best, anyway. I started taking an anti-depressant for my horrible mood swings that hit with my cycle, and at least I don't have to call out of work once every month. I know what that lifeless feeling is - I spent literally all day Saturday in bed (even with my medication). I'm not saying to get help because *he* says to - but maybe you should just get a checkup to make sure everything is ok. Our emotions are tied very closely to our physical health, and we need to try to keep a handle on both. Please, take care of yourself!