he went to jail... now what?
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| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:14am |
We have to be in court at 11am tomorrow morning.. I had went to police station and filed report and went to hospital cause they thought my arm could possibly be broken..now i feel like i am going crazy...
I want to talk to him... I dont want to talk to him... i want my marriage to work .... I dont want my marriage to work.... I dont know what to do ... all i can do is sit here and cry...
i hurt so bad.. i just need help and not sure what to do or where to turn! everyone is supporting me but then at the same time i feel like they are smothering me.. does anyone else feel this way???????
ok well it is after midnight my time so i guess i am going to go try to sleep. they gave me some med at the hospital so i guess ill go take some and lay down...
thanks for listening....
any advice is greatly needed...

i pray that everything goes ok with you. i do know what it is like to have them put in jail only for someone to bail them out a few hours later. that is what happened last time he went in. this time, no one was there so he is stuck for a while. you know what is right and wrong and how you want to feel. bad it not one of the feelings included i'm sure. stay strong and get help. it's been a week and already the world has been lefted off my sholders. keep him out, especially if he is a mommas boy and can go crawling under her. you will be sad for a little while wanting to have the company and companionship but it will be ok. God allows us to go through only what we can handle. Ask for his help and he will come.
shay
I know it's hypocritical of me to say that when I can't leave my abuser, but sweety, he beat you. Left marks on you. Left you with a possible broken arm. How much are you willing to take? How much pain and suffering are you willing to go through to have a marriage? Sweety leave. Get the divorce and learn about yourself beforee you have another relation ship. I am telling you this because I had an abusive first marriage and now I am in my second abusive mariage. If I had only taken the time to find out me first. I don't think I would be in this situation at all.
I am so sorry you are hurt. My first husband beat me up when we separated. I made a police report and we went to court. I was saying to the judge things like, "Don't put him in jail, yes he hit me but don't put him in jail." HELLO! If I could go back in time, I would smack myself. It is so common to want to reach out to your abuser after he goes to jail or he leaves because you fought. You want to know what he's thinking, if he's sorry, if he still wants to be with you or to just hear what he has to say about it all. Right now, leave him alone. Go to court, be honest and let the judge decide. Please listen to others who have been there. I may have not been strong enough myself to leave but that doesn't mean I didn't see the results of my actions. We all learned so you don't have to.
Stay Strong, be safe!
any suggestion s and advice is still appreciated i just need to have friends right now help me through all this or i am going to go crazy...
thanks for listening...