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| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 3:24pm |
Well i just dont understand. I go to court with my face still bruised from our last encounter and the judge doesnt even look at me. he tells my ex that he must not have any contact with me, no phone calls, no stopping by, no sending flowers, (like he would do that), no contact what so ever. THATS IT!!! NO JAIL, NO FINES, NO NOTHING. It just isnt fair. i get raped and the sh!t beat out of me and he gets a slap on the wrist. I had pictures of my bruises, a full examination (very humiliating examination) and a police report because yall said i needed to make sure everything is documented. why even bother, it didnt do me any good. yea the judge ordered him to stay away, and he will for awhile, but i know that eventually the cycle will start all over. i know that calling the police was the right thing to do, and going to the emergency room was the right thing to do, but why do i feel so sh!tty. Maybe my ex is right, it would be alot easier to just do what he says, at least then he doesnt hit me. I dont want to give in to him but i really dont want to be hurt any more either.
Van :(

Van, even by succumbing to his demands and wishes, he is still going to hit you and abuse you.
The instant he tries to contact you, call the cops immediately and report the RO violation.
CL-Blueliner4
Mama Harmony
Van...I think that these men should get jail time and fines among other things on the "first offense".
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
- Maya Angelou
I was wondering -- the court hearing you had the other day -- was it for a criminal case against him for what he's done to you, or was it a hearing for you to get a restraining order against him? The difference is the burden of proof. Unfortunately, it is much harder to prove guilt in a criminal case than it is to prove guilt in a civil case (like a restraining order hearing). The burden of proof in a criminal case is "beyond a reasonable doubt," and the burden of proof in a civil case is "by the preponderance of the evidence." I know all of this because I'm a criminal and family law paralegal.
What I'm trying to say here is, even if the judge could not satisfy the burden of proof in a criminal case against him, he should have enough to grant you a restraining order, which you DEFINITELY need! Talk to the people at your local shelter -- they should be able to walk you through the process for getting an RO. Keep us updated, and hang in there!
Love & Hugs,
Emm