hello everyone..update..

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Registered: 06-17-2006
hello everyone..update..
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Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:58pm

Had a session with my therapist yesterday. Just realised (or rather validated) that the more I stay with an OCD, dominant person, who is used to getting his way by bullying and tantrums, the more I am learning to 'live with it', 'getting numbed out', keeping subservient and submissive. Every weekend, he and DD have war of words..he is overly strict, shouts at small things - yesterday he saw a tiny bit bread crumb..we got shouted at, when I asked him if he had given her food before she left for her activity, he showed his fist at me saying..she is old enough she should ask when she is hungry. yes, I agree but raising his fist and yelling at me for asking him that is not right. Today he went on an on about why dd let the pet (who was dirty from the rain) inside a room..I mean come on..it wasn't a big deal..I just stay quiet to not let situation escalate. If I try to tell anything, he blows.

Sooo...I think the only way to end this is to leave. thanks for being patient with me..but I appreciate any response. I think I need to get my strength back and do this for DD and me. I am scared obviously with finances..but I keep remembering Kat's message (and trust God here..)..you have to learn to keep the faith and look to Him for strength.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 1:24pm

We all know this is excruciatingly difficult for you, Winter.

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Registered: 01-04-2000
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 7:23pm

I was not going to leave until I had a stable income that I could comfortably provide for my kids and myself...you can look at my past posts to verify that. I left January 1, 2011 still getting 824.00 a month in social security disability. In Colorado, that does not go very far when the average rent is 1,000.00 a month.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 4:47pm
What's up with him showing you his fist? Is that new for him?

I'm glad you're still with the therapist. Everyone's journey takes a different amount of time.
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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:36pm

"he showed his fist at me"

This is concerning to me...

~hugs~

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Nightangel
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Sun, 01-30-2011 - 1:46am

To clarify, when he gestured at me..he had clenched fists. See this http://www.ehow.com/list_7421689_types-angry-gestures.html

anyway..thanks for writing. I have been dealing with some family health issues so things have been status quo..it is