help, my daughter is being ABUSED...

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Registered: 04-29-2004
help, my daughter is being ABUSED...
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Wed, 01-25-2006 - 5:18pm

My daughter is in an abusive relationship.
He has already alienated all of her friends and he forbids her to see her family. He constantly tells her how he hates her friends and family (he has no friends).The only time we here from her is during her working hours. In the evening and on the weekends she has to turn her phone off (or there are consequences).
We arrange for her to see a counselor, she went during working hours so he wouldn't find out, but then stopped going. She said she didn't need it (she lied to her counselor about her situation). She has moved out twice. First time for 2 days, the second time for 4 days.
There are many other things I could list but my wife and I are getting tired of everything, BUT I am not ready to give up on her..... I CAN'T DO THAT!

I am looking for any type of help that I can find.

If anyone has any suggestions......

PLEASE HELP US HELP OUR DAUGHTER!!!

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 8:15pm
Welcome, Marley, and bless you for hanging in there with your girl.

 

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 4:22pm

Hi Marley, welcome -


I hope you took a look at the information Gonna suggested.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 04-29-2004
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 5:24pm

Thanks for your responses,
It helps just to talk about everything, My wife and I had a fight last night, she is tired of the lies and feels that we are being taken advantage of. We are, but I try and tell her that is how he has programed her and that we have to remember to be there and be supportive of her.

She has slipped a couple of times in conversation and mentioned that he was trained to kill in the National Guard, he has threaten to kill thier dog (just before christmas it was struck and killed by a car 9 days short of 1 yr.)
On one of her trips home she said that he has screwed the door shut, and if he hears of anyone (US) doing anything then someone is going to get hurt. She said he frequently mentions my elderly parents and knows where they live. (Some bluffs you don't want to call)

Time to go home, another night, another adventure.