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| Fri, 11-25-2005 - 12:02am |
Hello, everyone. I am happy to be writing here again. I had been to a shelter for a week about one month and a half ago just until he left the house but we are living in our home again and he is gone, so gone, thank G-D. He still is taking the girls to school everyday but no longer living here. He sees them two times a week besides that. I am very proud of myself; I am back in school and will be working soon.
I had invited him over for Thanksgiving because the girls wanted me too. That's when I realized that there is no way to co-parent with him although I did not start the divorce proceedings yet. I am being dramatic, but he will not rest till he sees me dead or dying. He is making my life a living hell. And he has found the perfect way to do it: through the kids. He is such a BAD father, I cannot believe it is possible. He treats them like a stranger on the elevator would if he saw two kids. He smiles and behaves in a superficial manner. He does not behave like a father. My little girl's plate was overflowing, and he was next to her, but like the astronaut that he is, completely oblivious that maybe he should help her. My little girl had to ask him a question three times before he paid attention that she was talking to him, AND HE WAS RIGHT NEXT TO HER! I thought he was stoned. I swear. But he said he wasn't.
I took him to the room and as gently as possible told him that he needs to work on his relationship for the girls. I know he attacks at every opportunity, so I got into what I call my "geisha mode"; spoke gently and ever-so-kindly, put my hand on his, just so he will listen to me after me telling him this since my older daughter was two years old and I realized he sucks as a parent. He looked at me and just as I thought he was going to say something nice, he said I was trying to separate him from the girls. It was a disaster.
I realize now that this will be my fight to the death. One of us will win. I picked the wrong man and I am paying for it with my life. Why do I say my life? Because I have such physical pains from the relationship with him (the co-parenting relationship) that I think I might have a heart attack from him.
I am going to a pro-bono advocate who specializes in these types of situations. It will be either him or me. I will fight to the finish to get them away from him. I will never let him win. This man will not get the better of me, or hurt my girls. I will not let him. When I was at the shelter, some of the counselours there said it is very hard to have it so that the father will not have any relationship with his girls. I will do everything to prevent any type of contact, legally. I think he will be very harmful to my daughter's because of his passive, superficial, non-caring attitude. I really hope G-D helps me through this one. Wish my luck and prayers, please. And please write back, I will be happy to 'speak' to you guys again.
