He's got me feeling crazy!!

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Registered: 12-03-2010
He's got me feeling crazy!!
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 11:04pm

Another argument about nothing I can see as being worth it except the fact that my husband is a verbal and emotional abuser. But for a few minutes I thought that he was right about me and that there was something wrong with me. He had me doubting myself and feeling crazy, trying to figure out what it was I had said, did, whatever to get this whole thing started. Well today it started with him tapping his leg on the chair so loud I could hardly hear the TV or concentrate on what I was doing, so I asked, please can you not do that so loud. I asked

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 6:07pm

Is he on medication for the bipolar?

What is keep you two together?

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 8:54pm

"What does he want me to do, just give it to him when he says even if I don't want to, give him pity sex , pretend I want it."

Ugh, I know that one too well. I'm also wondering what he's doing to treat his ADHD and bipolar and what keeps you together. Honestly, I don't know how you do it married to someone bipolar. That alone could be extremely challenging for anyone. Bipolar people can actually become delusional and dangerous--I'm not how severe your husband's case is, though. Don't let him blame his attitude problems all on that, though. My husband tries to blame everything on his depression. My therapist saw through it for me. I hope you are getting some type of counseling for yourself while you deal with this, too. You definitely

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 11:47pm

You described my abusive ex to a tee.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 10:06pm

It's called oppositional behavior.

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Registered: 12-07-2010
Tue, 12-07-2010 - 1:07pm

I think he does get off on upsetting people. He does take tegretol and effexor has been for a couple of months now has helped him some what but there is times where it's like he is compelled to start something out of nothing.