He's moving out!
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He's moving out!
| Mon, 04-25-2005 - 1:08pm |
Thanks to everyone who has posted their support and advice on my last post (Is it abuse?). It's been a big week, and the bf and I have slowly been talking about alot of things, moving towards getting him out of the apartment with as little hard feelings as possible. This morning he woke me up at 6 a.m. and said he was ready to leave. We talked and he started crying and kept apologizing to me for all the horrible ways he treated me during our arguments. He said that I should never have to deal with that, and although he still loves me, he knows it's best to get out and get on with our own separate lives. He says he doesn't know why he did what he did, and he had never done it before, and never wants to do anything like that again.
I'm not trying to put the cart before the horse here, I'm on guard for any more incidents (like mean drunken phone calls, possibly). But I don't know, this (moving out) is a really big step and something that the bf DID NOT want to do. I think he might have had a breakthrough this morning. I know only 1% of abusers change, but he's hitting most of the marks on the "will he change" checklist. I hope that he can keep it up. Anyway, I helped him pack before I went to work, and he reserved a seat on a train headed out tommorrow.
I'm so relieved and happy that this period of my life is ending! Thanks again for everyone's advice and support and best of luck to everyone else on the board!
I'm not trying to put the cart before the horse here, I'm on guard for any more incidents (like mean drunken phone calls, possibly). But I don't know, this (moving out) is a really big step and something that the bf DID NOT want to do. I think he might have had a breakthrough this morning. I know only 1% of abusers change, but he's hitting most of the marks on the "will he change" checklist. I hope that he can keep it up. Anyway, I helped him pack before I went to work, and he reserved a seat on a train headed out tommorrow.
I'm so relieved and happy that this period of my life is ending! Thanks again for everyone's advice and support and best of luck to everyone else on the board!

I second Wish's post.
CL-Blueliner4