His birthday - need advice!
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| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 1:47pm |
So it is Day 3 since he left the house after I asked him to leave, but his bday is coming up this Saturday. He asked me yesterday if he could be home for his bday with tears in his eyes, but I told him we are playing it one day at a time. He has been cooperating all along by not forcing himself back. He asked yesterday if he could come back, but I told him I was not ready so he respected my wishes. So far that has been a relief that he has been cooperating with staying away. I am worried though that he is going to put the big manipulative moves when his birthday comes up and it will be really tough to stand my ground, but I figure I have celebrated 26 birthdays with him, my not celebrating one of those will not kill him.
The problem is that my kids 13 and 20 are also asking if Dad can come back for his b-day, so I don't want to put the girls through this kind of hurt, because I am not sure they understand that I am needing time to heal. He is suggesting we spend it at an overnight hotel as a family, I think that is way too soon!
Need some major coaching advice.
| Thu, 08-10-2006 - 12:31am |
