How do abusers reconcile their behavior?
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How do abusers reconcile their behavior?
| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:00pm |
I simply can't believe that after calling me lazy, stupid, selfish, crybaby, and a liar, that my h expects me to feel good about him or myself. He firmly states that he meant everything that he said but that I should just work on those issues. I feel like I am trapped in a sci-fi movie. No logic applies at all. If I say that why are you interested much less in love with someone like you describe, he just says you are a wonderful person. When I tell him that his name-calling is a definite turn-off for me, he says you are just being too sensitive.
If I ask would you start dating someone or feel good about your little sister marrying someone who described her that way, he just says that is not a good example.
He has a list of demands that is ever-growing and changing (because a demand is met, God forbid that!) and pairs that with tearing down my self-esteem at every chance and then wonders why I am withdrawn from him. He does not offer me comfort or seek to support me but demands all time and attention be focused on him. That he says will make me happy..I should not bring up any ideas or concerns of mine.
How do they reconcile their bizarre and twisted behavior?

Hi BooBoo and welcome -
Abusers firmly believe that their behavior is right and correct and they have a RIGHT to behave in this manner.
CL-Blueliner4
Sarah