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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 10:35am |
Who doesn't want to be helped? I have strong suspicions that my best friend is being abused. She admitted one night a few years ago, that her live-in boyfriend punched her in the head (she was drunk and confessing this to us) but SWORE it was a one-time incident. Is there such a thing as a one-time incident?
This past week I finally saw her again, after not seeing her for months. She had a cut and bruise on her forhead - she claims she fell out of bed. She also said she was all bruised on her arm and shoulder on that side where she fell, but I noticed her gingerly rubbing her ribs on the OPPOSITE side.
A couple years ago, another friend of ours called Child Services (she has a DD that is in the middle of this) and she found out about it and was LIVID - cut off all contact with this friend. She always has excuses for any bruising she has (ie falling down the cement stairs - but she drinks so THAT may have happened). This boyfriend is the same guy she dated in highschool, who used to go through her closet and tell her she couldn't wear things because they made her "look like a slut". He also read her diary and went through all her drawers whenever she was out of the room. Red flags???
I am not a confrontational person, so this is really hard for me. I don't want to lose all contact with her, because then I will never know what is going on in her life.
So I guess I have 2 questions: Is there such a thing as a one-time abuser? and What do I do about this situation - risk getting involved and getting shut out of her life, or do nothing but keep checking on her?

First of all welcome to the board.
Hi hon, welcome -
Wishful is right on with her post, and I agree with everything she said.
CL-Blueliner4