How Do You Know You're Not The Abuser?
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How Do You Know You're Not The Abuser?
| Tue, 04-25-2006 - 3:52pm |
Just an idea I've been thinking about it. My first dh of 23 years was very abusive - I didn't realize how much until I got away from him (actually - kicked him out. That was fun)...Anyway, almost 6 years into the 2nd marriage - it was pretty rough at first, but it's evened out. We've got an adorable 4 y.o. dd - who can be a handful sometimes (headstrong about getting her way). Anyway, I do lose my temper sometimes, and raise my voice louder than I should. I put dd in "time out" if she is acting inappropriately/out of control (crying for what she wants and doesn't necessarily need it right then), etc. Where's the line? My temper normally doesn't stay bad for long - I get over it and/or go somewhere until I calm down. I guess I still have doubts because my ex, of course, accused me of everything under the sun when, in fact, it was mostly him and his severe emotional problems. Pretty bad when a counselor refuses to see you any more because he knows you've lied to him (yes, that was my ex all over...)..Any constructive comments are welcome..

Sanks, I always feel terrible when I lose my temper, and blame myself for doing it. And try to do stuff to make up for it (if I would just learn to not lose my temper, it would cost me alot less at the store!) ;)
Do you have any idea why ivillage keeps deleting my messages?? That's been going on awhile..I don't think I've violated any of their policies...