How long does it last??
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How long does it last??
| Tue, 06-28-2005 - 3:31pm |
I have been so confused lately. About 2 months ago me and H had a HUGE arguement. I almost left but he begged me to stay, and swore he would change this time. I told him the things I didnt like and we talked about how he didnt help with anything and the way he treated me. He said that he was sorry and that he would change. I had heard that before and like the other times decided to try again. The problem is that I had lost all emotions for him. I didnt care what he did, I just wanted out. I still feel that way, but so far things have actually been pretty good. In the past when we would have an arguement like that and he said he would change, things would get better but would only last maybe a month at the most before they went back to being bad again. But this time its been 2 months and even though there are still a few things that hes doing that I dont like and we have talked about them....over all its been pretty good. But in the back of my mind im still waiting for him to explode. How do you really know if they have changed? How long will someone go "being good" before things get bad again?

It's kind of hard to tell how long the niceness will stay.
Wish is right, there's no telling how long he's going to be minding his Ps and Qs.
CL-Blueliner4
Girl, our door is always open and we will always give a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on and boxes of kleenex if need be.
Wow, your story sounds a lot like mine. I went through this same thing sooo many times. Here's the thing, you dont need to wait for a blow-up to leave. It doesn't have to be a dramatic thing. Really sit down and think with your head, not your heart. Logically think it all out, take some time if you need it. I did this several times, where he would be 'good' for a while, acting almost exactly like your guy, being good but still with the control issues and still making the jokes that hurt me, just not as bad. I thought, "Hey, it's not as bad as it was, I'm overreacting and should be thankful that he's trying to change." WRONG!!!! Keep in mind that if he really is going to change, he can do it without you there. There's no need for you to suffer while he betters himself, which you'll probably find out the truth soon enough, that there really is no desire to change, only a desire to keep his hooks in you long enough for you to relax a little. Don't let your guard down, it really sounds like he's not changing.