Hubby is driving me nuts
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Hubby is driving me nuts
| Mon, 08-30-2004 - 12:14am |
Hi folks!!! My hubby is driving me nuts!! He just gets worse everyday. Very selfish and controlling of the finances. I've been without a paycheck for about one month, since i worked for a school (out during summer, except for a short program which i did work.)It's very difficult, not because of a lack of money(he has hoards and stashes in at least two places that i'm aware of, plus a hefty amount in the checking account), but because he is not willing to share. Now, i've always worked, plus i've gone to school on a scholarship (have not had to pay anything but gas money)that i earned.I've also always been available to the kids(always work around their schedule.)Thank goodness i'm starting a new job this week, cause the deprivation is getting unbearable. I've had to sneak money to pay the utilities, and i know i'll be in for it when he finds out. Plus the money that he has given willingly, he's keeping track of, i have to pay him back. This is for water and electricity, mind you, for our home that includes kids. And forget about medication. I take three prescription meds for a thyroid condition that i haven't even been to the doctor for in a year. I had to sneak money for that as well. I'm fortunate though, the job i'm taking has insurance that will at least pay for my meds and maybe some of my doctor visits. I've never made too much money, and he hold this over my head. However, i've made leaps and strides in my career that has put me on the right track(at least i've always felt valued as an employee though my hubby seems to see a different person than my friends and coworkers.)I feel like i definately contribute to the household as a wife and mother as well. Is he right to be so selfish? Am i wrong to expect him to help with utilites and meds for one month? This man took me and our two kids and one of their friends out for drinks and almost made the kids only get water, while he announced he was having Dr. Pepper, because it was his money. I got water, and he did finally allow the kids a coke. There's no reason for this tightwadness. How do you guys see it?

You are NOT his slave. For every dollar that you put into your household, he should be putting in one of his own... again, marriage is about sharing. If the man you are married to is not up to that, then there is a real problem and I would start to look into moving on with your life. Get councelling...
I cannot tell you how infuriated I am reading what you wrote... please, you deserve better for yourself and your children then that man as he is.
No, that is NOT right, and I've spoken with you about the thyroid before.
CL-Blueliner4
If you don't feel comfortable telling him, print out your post and give it to him to read.
CL-Blueliner4