I am just plain old PISSED OFF! ...
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| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 2:33pm |
I know, i know ... "hate" only eats at me ... does nothing to hurt HIM, but, i DO hate him.
M was away X2 weeks. refused to tell me where, not that i asked, but there was NO way to contact him in an emergency. Fine. During the time, i get 4 phone calls from his girfreinds psycho XH. Lovely. M totally denies she was with him on vaca to me (again, not that i asked, he called as soon as he was home & heard, to deny it to me). Yet i go into work this week (she is an RN at my hospital, a total "loser" type of person, btw) & hear from a float nurse that this girl had a 2 vaca in the same place Mike brought Ave stuff home from. So, obviously he lied. I truly dont care. I pray he freaking marries her & they move far far away.
But, the 1st nite Ave stayed with him, i picked her up & 1st thing she begins asking me "Mommy, if it was you who got kicked out of our house, woud you say bad things about Daddy, stuff like he has a girlfreind?"


Rebecca,
I've been going thru the same thing as you. I thought that I had to have my attorney contact the GAL, but you don't as long as you keep him in the loop on what you talked to her about you can talk to her yourself. I just had a sit down with her last 2 or 3 weeks ago over lunch to discuss things and where she feels things are headed. It really helped.
Unfortunately, the courts give them too many rights and chances. I have been told that until I can prove my ex abuses my son. I have to let him go and increase the times with him to build up to my 17th old staying overnight at this house before this summer. My son has never spent a night away from home and I keep trying to point this out to everyone and make them aware that I don't want to devistate him by having him fear he is being abandoned. He wakes up screaming now in the middle of the night for no reason.
Oh and I'm up to around 8 or 9 thousand now with my divorce and we don't have a house or anything to fight over. He refuses to pay anything towards the marital debt and he is still on disability so I will end up with it regardless. We have a trial date of 4/26 and I have no idea what we are going to trial for. We don't own anything to fight over and if he thinks I'll ever give him joint custody. He really will have to kill me first. We send over settlements and he refuses them and won't counter offer. So I'm stuck racking up more debt to go to court just to get my divorce decree.
You're not along on this and I get frustrated too. It's hard to say the past is in the past and move forward when you have to deal with the ex so much. Farm boy tells me that, but it's hard when I have to talk to him now and deal with his girlfriend. The ex has no idea about Farm boy and I plan to keep it like that. He really would blow a gasket over that. Farm boy is successful and has all the things the ex felt entitled to, except he actually works for them. Novel concept I know.
Keep you're head up,
Jennifer
Oh, geez. Custody matters are not my area of expertise (though, if SIL's Evil proceeds as I expect him to, I suspect that's going to change :P) but even so, I can't think of much more you could do. The only thing I know to recommend is to try to get a new GAL.
This stuff ticks me off SOOOO bad. Those of you who have been around for a few years may remember an incident where Evil was taking DN somewhere, she got carsick, and he made her stick her head out the window to throw up, at 70 MPH on the freeway. I was advised to call CPS, and did. The answer I got there was that unless he was beating her, they could do nothing. WHEN are the authorities going to get it through their heads that abusing a child does not necessarily entail beating them bloody??!!
May the karma bus keep a-rollin his way.