I cant beleive i ever married him!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
I cant beleive i ever married him!
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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 1:15pm

We havent spoken since Aves visit Thurs except for me offering her to go with him for a couple of hours today, b4 i go to work at 3pm. He said he woudl see what his work schedule was. I drove by his house today at 10am (not on purpose, it was on the route i had to go) & his car was in the driveway - so he did NOT work. Now he just called, at 1pm.


He said "I dont know what to do, she was obviously uncomfortable & didnt want to be here the other day - i dont know what i should do". & i felt badly at that moment (changed fast!) b/c i thought maybe he was realizing that he has to do something for her - for him - for their relationship. So i just said, NICELY, "well Mike, you know, you have to look at it from her 5 yr old point of view, that last visit was tough on her & she was nervous

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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 1:30pm

Ha, that told him.
Good on you. I bet he's getting scared now because he's realising he can't manipulate you anymore. Well too bad for him.
You stick with it. You handled that phone call really well.
Every day, you're one step closer to freedom. I'm cheering you on all the way.

Rowena

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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 2:27pm
LOL. But even though i TOLD him ... there is no guarentee he is listening!

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 3:42pm
Dang girl you sure did tell him!
5yrssm 
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 4:45pm

May I hand you some rope for M?

CL-Blueliner4

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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 6:19pm
Boy i love you girls! You gave me such a giggle! I HOPE HOPE HOPE he CANT hold himself together ... Whoo hoo ... i woudl just look right at his atty & SMILE!

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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 8:33pm

For reasons of safety I had to edit. The original poster read what I wrote. I knew it was safe to post what I did then. I know everyone will understand. :)


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Edited 5/8/2005 10:58 pm ET ET by iawakened
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 9:18pm

Unfortunatly, i myself just started thinking that may be next on his list to torture me with. I think he is finally realizing, & it is setting in, that he has lost me completely. He now knows i am never coming back. & b/c of how dd is acting ...

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 12:10am
Rlch, I get the impression that our Xs are cut from the same mold, even have the same name. (is there a name for phobias of people with that name? Because I am quickly developing a phobia) But then, these guys are pretty typical I am sure. Mine also had nothing positive to say even in the most positive circumstances. Regarding the house: I have a house I love as well. When he was showing people the house, he would brag and tell them about how successful he was, and here is the house to prove it. When the slightest thing would go wrong, suddenly it was the aweful house that I forced him to buy with his own hard earned money. Conveniently forgetting I was paying the mortgage, and he actually pressured me into buying it rather than the other way around. Whatever... Regarding suicide: oh yes, many many times was I threatened with this. It usually involved doing the act in front of me so that I could see what I have done to him. Sometimes it involved doing it in front of all the people I work with. Whatever.... I figure there is a possibility that he is depressed and miserable at the moment because he had a tendency to be that way anyhow (that is a grand understatement) But don't care one iota about what he does with himself now. I don't waste a moment thinking about it. I am beginning to think these guys aren't actually as depressed and miserable as they act out. I think it is used more as a tool to control. In other words, it is almost like a sadistic desire to torture us by knowingly creating an environment of anxiety and misery. Kind of like the torture prisoners of war go through.