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i cant say im sorry
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 10:09am |
My husband and I have been arguing quite a bit lately. On Friday we argued and he broke a few things and put a hole in the wall. He kept getting in my face making me flinch. I was in an abusive relationship a looong time ago, I know my husband isn't like that but he does feel the need to intimidate me in certain ways. I'm not totally sure what happened but I started hitting him a lot. He is a very muscular man and it didn't seem like my punches were really doing anything so I slapped him in the face. He didn't hit me back but he pushed me down. I have always been somewhat verbally abusive. In our arguments he never really tries to hurt me physically or emotionally. I have often said very harsh things to hurt him. I have even had the nerve to compare him to my past horrible relationship. The next night we started arguing again and it ended in me beating on him, there was a point where he was against the wall and I kept pushing his head into the wall (he now has a bruise on his forhead) he threw me down and started hitting me with a pillow. He did kick at me i think but he missed. My daughter found me crying on the floor. She is 5. We decided to seperate. He is staying at his father's and I am at our apartment but our lease is about to be up so I am going to have to find an apartment on my own. OOps I have to step out for a second...I'll finish in a few minutes

You should appologise to your husband. If he din't start hitting you or he wasn't being abusive, you need to mend that. Don't misunderstand, if you are in an abusive relation ship, I suggest you do whatever you can to get out. But by what you wrote, it doesn't sound that way. If he isn't being abusive, your little girl needs her daddy. Mend it.
I'm going to say something controversial:
Don't hit him if you don't want to be hit.
My husband has never hit me, although I have hit him several times like you have described. One day he sat me down and said,
"You notice that when you hit me, I never hit you, right? There's only so much I can take, please stop hitting me." He and I don't hit each other anymore. We have other MAJOR problems but hitting isn't one of them.
I am curious to read the rest of the story.