I did it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2005
I did it!
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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 8:44am

Ladies, I just want to say that after your advice and my family's advise, etc. I finally grabbed my belongings while my abusive now-ex fiance was at work yesterday and moved in with a relative until I can move back home to my homestate. And just the feeling of power that I've gotten from that has been amazing! I have to admit that I'm feeling a HUGE FLOOD of emotions, including guilt, sadness, relief, and STRESS because I don't know what he might do next. He had never laid his hands on me before in 8 years, but Tuesday night was the final straw, he has now gone too far. He wouldn't even "let" me leave from our bedroom the other night, and tried to take my phone from me, he was pushing me around and telling me how I've done him soooooo wrong and he just wasted his time on me as if HE'D NEVER DONE ANYTHING to me! So, I'm disappointed because I feel like the entire engagement and our entire relationship was just another, repeat of what has happened before by him going in this pattern of abuse and wanting to make up, etc. It's just been a huge slap in the face.

So I feel some relief, some sadness, some frustration, some anger, a whole lot of hurt and I've been reading these books about abuse and the result of being with someone for years who is this way and it helps some. One day at a time right? :0)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: msandrews1
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 2:05pm
Congratulations!!! Good luck with everything in the future!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
In reply to: msandrews1
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 6:11pm
That is wonderful news hun!
5yrssm 
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2004
In reply to: msandrews1
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:23am
Hi and just want to say I'm in total agreement with you. Layer by layer and I'm a true believer in that what does not kill you makes you stronger! This mantra and prayer has brought me to where I am today. I hope the original poster takes heed. Take care and God Bless.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2005
In reply to: msandrews1
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 8:46am

Good for you!

Yes, take it one day at a time. And don't let him sweet talk you back. You can be very proud of yourself. :)

*applauds*