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I did it!
| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 10:43am |
Well, I left him. I made it out Saturday. In the process of loading up all my organized clothes, documents, momentos, etc. I totally panicked. My poor son only has like 3 outfits. Oh well, at least I made it. Now I have this sick feeling in my stomach. I thought I would feel total relief and happiness but mostly I just feel sick and scared. Where do I go from here? When will I feel calm and relief like the others who have made it out?

Okay, the important thing is you are out and you are safe.
CL-Blueliner4
I did get an emergency OP against him. I cried through the whole proceeding but the legal advocate from the DV shelter was my rock. She walked me through the whole thing. However, the backwards county that I live in may have not even served him with it and its been a whole week. He and his mother claim they know nothing about it. My husband did show up at my son's first year checkup appointment to my horrified surprise. I guess he simply called the doctor and asked when we were scheduled. I guess that one is my fault for not advising them differently. He was not violent but so sad and distraught. I bet he's lost 15 pounds. Shaking, white, looked horrible. I did feel a little sorry for him but didn't let it show. I calmly told him to leave before I call the cops. He handed me a letter and left. The letter basically begged me to come home. His mother has also called my sister at least 30 times since I left. I'm not sure how to handle that since you really can't call the police and say "she keeps calling".
I don't know. I'm much more calm now but still feeling lost. Another factor is that his dad is dying of cancer and his family really wants him to visit with my son (his grandson) in the hospital. I don't know what to do. I know that I don't want to see my husband or his family right now. I also don't trust them to return my son if I let him visit. Any advice on that one?
Anyway, I'm staying strong but yearning for some stability and routine.
YES YOU CAN.
ANY contact under an OP, be it in writing, phone, or THIRD PARTY (i.e. his mother) is considered a violation and he MUST be reported.
CL-Blueliner4
Lisa
Thanks again for the advice. This board is great. It gives me confidence to move forward and that's definitely what I need right now.