I Don't know How much I can take
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| Fri, 05-05-2006 - 12:44am |
I have this on another bord but I thought I would share my situation with this bord also and I am new to this board I have health problems that are getting worse I am trying to make a brake away my hubby keeps making excuses on why we can't get away from these very abusive to the bolth of us I do have desided to get away but it looks like I may have to go by myself thing is I have 3 theropy animals but womens selters don't allow animals so I may have to live out of a stridge unit I deffenately have though of leaving even if I have to relocate out of state.
I am so drained all the time, 6yrs ago I was falsy accused m my abusive family, but these inlaws are just as bad I am not allowed to walk with out my Hubby or am I not allowed to have friends or to talk to family that has nothing to do the proble or icedent 6 yrs ago his family won't allow it , here is just what has gone on this year My Feb. ssi check went missing, so I got a new PO Box, the inlaws get angry and forced me to put my money in a bank were a my Hubbies Aunt works with his money.
I got me a theopy dog which I am traing and raising up, My God Father Had given me the money and is still making payments on her but if he dies or something I have to take over the payments.
What has happened they found I had my new theopy dog, got the e-mail address and his sister and her Husband clamed that they were Law inforcement and got the breeder to send he all owr e-mails they come to my home and black mail, me and threaten me with stalking, they also called ssi pretending to me saying that I did not get my check and had put a tracer on a check that was not planed on comming this month.
All of Hubbies Family members had told me threatening to put me in jail no matter what it took the year befor now, last year They could not find Hubby because he had gone out of town on some buisness so his Mother comes to my door threatens me with violents and to kill me and cards my gests . The year befor that they told me daily how bad of parent I was because I fight for my Children which are moved out of the house now because Hubby was feeling so stressed but sorry my children come first above all and when they need me I will stand behind them.
It has gotten so bad I am going to suport group meeting held by the abused womens group because Hubby has joined in my torment this year because I am standing up to keep things I love.
I seem to need to find a strong advicate some how, My Heath is so affected I do have high blood pressure, I am a daibetic and now my Drs think I my have a form of epalepis or narkolepic, I have post tramtic stress syndromwhich comes with the trommas I have suffered.
My Hubby has not helped me much he calls his Grandma who just wants it her way or the high way if he want money or we need another kennal and I want to cut them off so bad but he wont allow it even though that a calnselor told us for our sakes cut them off he thinks this is helping .
What hurts is he keeps saying that how his family is right this is after the black mail and ths now stalking problem I am so scare right now for month I have though of leaving cause
I am not allowed to clean the house what happens is I get yelled at cause I put it away, I have worn and hand washed 2 sets of close for we have 5 months of lawndary piled up cause he dose not think it important to have clean close I am not the perfect house keeper but
I clean the house until the yelling starts again and the mental digs which I put up with for week after he talks with his Ganny he do not know but I thought of ending it all then I think of those living things that really need me .
I have all my things in boxes and I am living out of my duffle bag after the back mail and stalking peroblem. My hubby all he did that night is curl up and shake which tells me that they had abused and threatened him , but for me to take him with me he would have to cut off his troble making famiy. A restraing order is out of the question His Mother is running for Mayer ans is citiy calseul and his step father works for the juvy deprt. and Hubby' Brother inlaw is the Jails Dr. . That is why I am so scard and terrified. I know what needs to be done but
I don't know what to do or how to go about it the Dr. wants my blood pressue down and I wish I can stop crying. I am so Tired of Hubby Turning a Blind Eye to What is going on if we can get fare away from his family we would be fine I know we went out of town with out telling his family. I am sorry this post is so long but I did not know were els to turn I am on my own any way. I am trying to get a new subport system that is not family, but I have been fighting isolation and meny fears
Thanks for hearing me out
I just don't know what to do about these inlaws who need to no longer be in my life

Hi tiger,
I think you may be right about moving away.It's not fair to you that you should have to go to such extremes just to have peace in your life,but from what you wrote in your post it may be the best thing for you.Do you live in a small community? If so, I understand that sometimes people abuse their authority and get away with it in small towns. I've seen it myself where I live.Your in-laws do not sound like very nice people, to say the least.Put your safety first.I'm sure some of the other gals can give you some good advice,and maybe some resources to look to for help.Take care of you.
Nikki