I dont know what to do

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Registered: 08-26-2004
I dont know what to do
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 7:00pm
This is a very long story that goes far more deeper than the bit that i am about to describe, but it comes down to this:

-my ex (who i was seeing for 3.5 yrs) and i broke up because he wouldnt marry me because of relgious/cultural differences..i'm white/catholic..he is arab/muslim

-i started dating someone else because of it, because he wouldnt even consider the idea of marrying me

-when i did start seeing this new guy, my 4ex freaked out and was very verbally abusive towards me. Very angry, very mean, very scary. I've never seen him like that before. He said things to me i would never think of saying to my worse enemy. but still, i love him.

-i have tried to move on with this new guy, tried to forget my ex, but i just miss him way too much. i feel like my life will never be happy without him. i feel like i'll be miserable and depressed the rest of my life without him.

-he says now that he would marry me. i know logically this might not be a good idea, he showed signes of abusive behaviour before and there's a good chance he might do it again. but it has come to the point that i dont even care..even if he kills me, i feel like without him...i'll be so depressed i might kill myself. i compare every guy to him and no one measures up. so i think life would be better if i just married him and put up with potential abuse.

i dont know what to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 7:35pm

Please, please sweetie, DO NOT marry this man.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 10:47pm
Sometimes you just have to go through this yourself. Sometimes after the pain and abuse outweighs the good times then you will see that you do not need this in your life. Good luck to you.