I don't know what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2003
I don't know what to do
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 10:23pm
You all, I was doing fine before he recently contacted me again. He was saying he was sorry for saying all of those hateful comments to me and he said he said it because he knew it would make me mad. Then he had the nerve to ask me for $950. He kept saying "please, just a little bit." Then I had the guts to tell him "I don't want you and I don't need you. You are abusive and need help, you keep lying to you and God is going to handle you, etc."

He then started saying even more hateful things, such as,....

-"That's why I live in a big house and you live in that little house"

-"I am rich, have a good job, have a nice car and I'm going to play football (mind you that he is a felon, is 23 years old, lives with his mom and she pays all of his bills).

-He was laughing and talking about how he used me and took all of my money and was saying "YOU GOT PLAYED."

-He also said he's going to Europe next year to play for the NFL Europe.

what did i ever do wrong. Why does he get all of these things but I am miserable and struggling?

Wednesday I am suppose to be leaving to bo back to school and Tuesday is my birthday. I'll be 20. Now I don't even want to go back to school because I'm just wasting my time.

I hate myself for giving him that money. I do good and don't use people or manipulate them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 12:06am

You didn't do anything wrong, honey.

CL-Blueliner4

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 9:58am
You shouldn't let this guy bring you down. He has the problem NOT you.

I have spent a few years listening to the verbal abuse of my H and feelings like a failure most of the time. I figured I was doing things wrong and with a little improvement I'd be a better wife, woman and things would be better. HA! I am a wondeful woman and a fantastic mother ( after all his crap I like to toot my own horn!)

You should live life to the fullest and do as Blueliner says. Forget that loser and be the fantastic woman you are supposed to be.

Alsop, he might seem to have it all but he obviously doesn't. He begs for money, has a criminal record and has to abuse women. That is not a man who is a success.