I feel like I'm going crazy.
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|Mon, 04-25-2011 - 2:31pm|
I feel like I'm going crazy. A little background: growing up my mom has been abusive, usually verbally and emotionally, but sometimes physically. My dad has also been the "suck it up and sweep it under the rug" type of person. My mom also has a history of "not remembering" incidents of abuse. Like she broke my knee cap... and says it never happened, despite x-rays and that my knee still acts up to this day.
I got married in January and found out we're pregnant. My mom apparently went into a "deep depression," told me my husband was abusive (not true at all), that she was furious at not being involved in the decision of me getting pregnant and a number of other similarly bizarre things. Both my parents insulted my husband to no end. So, we backed away and haven't visited since January when they really blew up.
My parents have been sending me passive aggressive emails and text messages, including "Haven't you hurt us enough?" since I have really put my foot down for the first time on their behavior. This is the first time I have stood up for myself and my husband and kids with them. I sent a very straight forward email saying if they wanted to have a relationship with me and their grandkids, they needed to cut out the behavior and apologize.
Today, I got an email saying "We can't apologize, since we haven't done any of things you're upset about." Essentially saying, it never happened... again.
I feel like I'm going crazy. I know they've said these things and can remember the incidents clearly, for most my husband was right there too. I just don't know what to think or feel. I'm so confused.