What is with these idiots not wanting to help financially care for the children they helped create????? At first, I felt guilty about child support, I was afraid STBX wouldn't have enough money to live on. I brought this up to my therapist..know what she said? SO?!? Why is that YOUR problem?! Like you said, he made his choices, he has to live with them. I'm glad he's not taking it out on your DD, so far. My Idiot said that if he takes the boys for a week this fall ( he THINKS he's going off to the beach and leaving all three with me while I'm in school and working, I told him he can take one of them, it'd be a nice trip for them) that he's not paying CS that week. I wanted to laugh out loud!!! They really think they can have what they want, don't they?? I would LOVE to be a fly one the wall when your STBX finds out what he is actually getting at the end of your divorce. Hopefully, he'll act like an adult, but you'd have to have a full-grown adult brain for that to happen, right??
Ugh, back to bed for me...this bedrest thing is KILLING me! Good luck!!!! And don't feel guilty anymore!! Guilt implies fault and this most certainly isn't your fault.
It is eerie how similar so many of these guys are. Is it just me or does ripping as much cash out of us and getting out of as much payments seem like a repeating theme here? Money seems to be a big part of their lives. They must all descend from a single species, homo-pathetica, I think.
What's the next big theme? Maybe the guilt trip they play about 'oh, poor me, I have nothing and SHE deprived me of it' as they are trying to jab that knife in our backs every moment, and cheat us for all we have. They seem to always be trying to devise ways to 'punish' us for their hurts.
Thanks so much you guys .... i KNOW in reality i have absolutely no reason to feel guilty AND no responsibility AT ALL to make this any easier on him than i already have. I have been cushioning the blows for so long, its sort of hard to stop cold turkey! lol
What is with these idiots not wanting to help financially care for the children they helped create????? At first, I felt guilty about child support, I was afraid STBX wouldn't have enough money to live on. I brought this up to my therapist..know what she said? SO?!? Why is that YOUR problem?! Like you said, he made his choices, he has to live with them. I'm glad he's not taking it out on your DD, so far. My Idiot said that if he takes the boys for a week this fall ( he THINKS he's going off to the beach and leaving all three with me while I'm in school and working, I told him he can take one of them, it'd be a nice trip for them) that he's not paying CS that week. I wanted to laugh out loud!!! They really think they can have what they want, don't they?? I would LOVE to be a fly one the wall when your STBX finds out what he is actually getting at the end of your divorce. Hopefully, he'll act like an adult, but you'd have to have a full-grown adult brain for that to happen, right??
Ugh, back to bed for me...this bedrest thing is KILLING me! Good luck!!!! And don't feel guilty anymore!! Guilt implies fault and this most certainly isn't your fault.
It is eerie how similar so many of these guys are. Is it just me or does ripping as much cash out of us and getting out of as much payments seem like a repeating theme here? Money seems to be a big part of their lives. They must all descend from a single species, homo-pathetica, I think.
What's the next big theme? Maybe the guilt trip they play about 'oh, poor me, I have nothing and SHE deprived me of it' as they are trying to jab that knife in our backs every moment, and cheat us for all we have. They seem to always be trying to devise ways to 'punish' us for their hurts.
These poor excuses for men are sooooo pathetic.
Thanks so much you guys .... i KNOW in reality i have absolutely no reason to feel guilty AND no responsibility AT ALL to make this any easier on him than i already have. I have been cushioning the blows for so long, its sort of hard to stop cold turkey! lol