I hope everyone has a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!!

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I hope everyone has a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!!
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 12:23am

Please keep in mind that abuse escalates during the holidays so on what I think of as the official start of the holiday season stay safe. Abusers seem to have a shorter fuse this time of year and so please think more about your safety then standing up to them!

I hope everyone has the best Thanksgiving they can but most importantly stays safe.

I personally hate the holidays but it is not all because of the abuser in my past but I will paste a smile on my face for children and get through it. I am even going to attempt to cook a turkey again (sigh). The last two years we went to my ex boyfriends house and he knows how to cook a turkey. I would not be cooking one if it wasn’t for the fact that I won one, lol. But on the bright side we are free from the abusive jerk and we will have a good day.

Please check in when you can. We really worry at the holidays!! When you check in how about at least one thing you are grateful for?

I will forever be grateful for my children! They give me strength and remind me there are good people in this world. I am not sure how they grew up to be the wonderful people they are but I am so glad they did. I am also grateful that my DS has made a complete turn around and will one day make someone wonderful lady a great husband and will be a wonderful father!!

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Registered: 02-28-2001

Wow, I have SO much for which to be grateful this year.  First of all, I’m alive.  I have a beautiful 14 year old dd.  My family will be here tomorrow to join us for Thanksgiving dinner.  I’m also grateful that the anniversary of the last time I experienced violence at the hands of a man who claimed to love me was exactly seven days ago and I am just now realizing it.

On November 14, 1999, the abuser in my life committed his final acts of abuse against me.  This included beating me off and on for the greater part of the day, including throwing me into walls, slamming my head on the tile floor, kicking me to the point that you could see his footprint on my body, ripping my butt length hair out of my head, and holding me at gunpoint for three hours while we “got some resolve to this situation”, which to this day I have no idea what he was talking about.  My 14 month old dd was present the entire time and saw everything, but thankfully, doesn’t remember any of it and I have never shared the details of that day with her.  November 14, 2007 is the date of his death, when his heart just stopped beating while he was hooked up to a dialysis machine.  He died just as I told him he would, young, alone, lonely and sick.  After we got away from him I forgave him for what he did to me, not for him, but for myself, for my own healing and peace.  I prayed for him every day.  I prayed that God’s Will would be done in his life.  The fact that he died when he did and exactly as I told him he would leaves no doubt in my mind that God heard my prayers.  Today my dd and I are happy, healthy, whole and HEALED! 

I am also grateful to the wonderful members of this board, past and present, who have walked this path with me.  To each and every one of you, I offer my gratitude and prayers for peace in your lives. 

Mama Harmony