i hope life is better from now on

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Registered: 07-08-2004
i hope life is better from now on
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Tue, 01-24-2006 - 1:58am
Hello and may peace be upon you all, by god's will. Life is hard, i hope that life is better for all of you. i wonder if the same women are on here? I do not get to socialize here ever outside of family so i do not have anyone to confide in, I just figured out the password for getting on this computer a short time ago, so now I hope to go online when I can. The children are all doing well here. My husband's job is very demanding so he is at the hospital alot. This puts much stress on him and then he takes frustrations out on me. I am scared of him more now than before. He controls every thing, I used to help make the bills out but now i dont get to do that. Besides grocery lists, cleaning and taking care of our children he doesnt let me do anything. There is another thing that is bothering me alot and i can not tell him. A male cousin of his, who comes to our house often, told me "i am making him have feelings for me and that i make him feel like is isn't in control when he is around me" and that he "wants to touch me". I don't have any idea why he said this to me, but it scares me to no end. He stares at me when he is over and he makes me feel so uncomfortable. If my husband ever found out he said this to me he would go crazy. I don't know what the outcome would be but i Know he would also blame me for some reason and i am so scared, because this cousin is becoming increasingly open about staring are me. I should go now but will try to be back and thanks for listening or giving advice.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 6:24am
Lost my first post, but I wanted to say it's great to hear from you!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:46am

Greetings Ahmed....


I am glad you are at least doing ok and I too am concerned about you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2004
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:22am
I'm glad to hear that you are still among the living, if not OK as such. Remember that it *is* against Islam to mistreat your spouse, no matter what he tells you. I don't remember if you are in his home country or not; if you are still in the states, I hope you will choose to get out soon.
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Registered: 11-12-2004
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:30pm
I remember you very well and had often worried about you. I was so very happy to see you had posted. At some level I can understand your situation and I feel for you because I know that your difficulties are compounded by culture. Do you see a way of getting yourself out of this situation? Are there people close to you that would be willing to help? You do have all of us here on your side. The situation with the cousin also worries me. Is there any way you can avoid this other man? Try to not be present or try to politely leave when he is around? I have a feeling that your husband would not understand. And I would worry for you to be at any time left alone with the cousin. Be ever so careful and my heart goes out to you.