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I just need some honest feedback.
| Mon, 04-12-2004 - 4:11am |
Ive been here many times before over the last couple of years.
It took me about 5 years to really get him out of the houser. Now me and our daughters (17 and 13 ) have been living in the matrimonial home on our own for 18 months now.
He has been living in his onw house that he bought before we got married 18yrs ago. His mother has been living in the house but sadly recently passed away. All the whole of the 18 months that he has been living 20 miles away in his house he has never left us alone.
We have never been able to do what we wanted to do at weekends , have girly nights in as we were always disturbed by him, he has always stayed at weekend ( its easier than dealing with anything else), and he has got it into his mind that he " belongs " with us , whether we want it or not , even his own daughters have told him quite bluntly that they know its not going to work , and he says he will "make" it work , and that we cannot make it work if we are not together. My eldest has told him that if he comes back , shes going , and hes still prepared to do it??
He has now sold his house and made it clear to us that hes coming back , no matter what , in fact hes not even bothered to ask his daughters how they feel.
The house is going through now and it wont be long before hes on the door step.
Ive tried to get orders and injuncftions , but he does have a stake in this house.
Both me and my girls are suffereing so much that we are all having panice attacks , we are finding it hard to go out for simple things , my youngest daughter has been taken out of main stream school as she cannot cope with thing snymore and she has one to one teaching at a local youth club, my eldest hasnt been out of the house for 3 weeks now , shes literally living in her room.
We all sat done last week and decided we think its best if we have a fresh start somewhere completley different.
I have applied to a housing trust that does emergency housing for our circumstances somewhere else in the UK , and we have been told that we are high on the list and we should hear something in the next week..............
I had 3 deaths in the last 2 years and ive spent all my inheritance on our house to make it so nice , ande as this house is all ive known i do feel a bit apprehensive about leaving it behind. What do you think ? and has anyone else had to do this.....
Thanks x x x
It took me about 5 years to really get him out of the houser. Now me and our daughters (17 and 13 ) have been living in the matrimonial home on our own for 18 months now.
He has been living in his onw house that he bought before we got married 18yrs ago. His mother has been living in the house but sadly recently passed away. All the whole of the 18 months that he has been living 20 miles away in his house he has never left us alone.
We have never been able to do what we wanted to do at weekends , have girly nights in as we were always disturbed by him, he has always stayed at weekend ( its easier than dealing with anything else), and he has got it into his mind that he " belongs " with us , whether we want it or not , even his own daughters have told him quite bluntly that they know its not going to work , and he says he will "make" it work , and that we cannot make it work if we are not together. My eldest has told him that if he comes back , shes going , and hes still prepared to do it??
He has now sold his house and made it clear to us that hes coming back , no matter what , in fact hes not even bothered to ask his daughters how they feel.
The house is going through now and it wont be long before hes on the door step.
Ive tried to get orders and injuncftions , but he does have a stake in this house.
Both me and my girls are suffereing so much that we are all having panice attacks , we are finding it hard to go out for simple things , my youngest daughter has been taken out of main stream school as she cannot cope with thing snymore and she has one to one teaching at a local youth club, my eldest hasnt been out of the house for 3 weeks now , shes literally living in her room.
We all sat done last week and decided we think its best if we have a fresh start somewhere completley different.
I have applied to a housing trust that does emergency housing for our circumstances somewhere else in the UK , and we have been told that we are high on the list and we should hear something in the next week..............
I had 3 deaths in the last 2 years and ive spent all my inheritance on our house to make it so nice , ande as this house is all ive known i do feel a bit apprehensive about leaving it behind. What do you think ? and has anyone else had to do this.....
Thanks x x x

Arg, what a louse.
Across the pond, do you have anything like a restraining order?
CL-Blueliner4