I just remembered something...

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Registered: 07-17-2005
I just remembered something...
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 11:02pm
After xbf and I had been together about 4 months, I found an instant message conversation on his computer between him and his exgf (who he talked bad about). The conversation was dated July 2004. They had met online, and spent a lot of time communicating via instant messaging. The conversation (which I shouldn't have been snoopy enough to read, but oh well) got very sexual at times, and at one point, he said how much he loves her and can't wait to spend the rest of his life with her. Well, it concerned me because he had told me he had never felt like he'd found the girl he wanted to marry (until he found me). So I asked him about it and apoligized for snooping, which he was fine with (he accepted my apology). He told me he didn't remember the conversation. He asked when it was dated, and I told him July 2004, and he said he didn't even meet her in person until August 2004 (he had only met her online in the middle of July)! That's right, he admitted saying those things to someone he'd never even met in person! I was shocked and asked him why he would do that, and he said she was upset about something (family member passing maybe - he couldn't remember) and he was trying to cheer her up. How unbelievable is that?? What's worse is that the incident didn't send me running in the opposite direction. Its funny the things we think are acceptable when we're in the middle of it all.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:52am
Oh mercy, these abusers stop at nothing and don't hold back do they?
5yrssm