I left after almost 7years of abuse
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|Fri, 11-12-2010 - 11:06pm|
Hello ladies. Im katie, I finally left my abuser of almost 7years. Im 21 with 2kids and 1on the way.
A little background::
When I was 16, he beat the living hell outta me, I had a concussion,broken nose,fractured, eye socket, bruised back, couldnt open my mouth for almost 2wks, not to mention the other bruises and bumps all over my body. I almost died from him choking me 4times that I can remember during that episode. I was upstairs in my mothers house. I remember being petrified and knowing I was about to die. He threatened to kill my family if I left him. So I stayed.
When I was 17 I got pregnant with my DS, and the abuse got better. After I had him though it got worse. I had severe PPD and no insurance so no drs. I was stuck in his brothers house(whos also very abusive to his g/f and son) finally we moved to MO and it got a little better because we were living with his father and step-mother and his brother moved to texas after 6wks of being in MO.
In Aug of 08 he back handed me after me finding out he was cheating on me etc. I had him arrested. I got a restraining order, but his step-brother and SIL couldnt let me stay for more then a month so at that time I had to move back in with him and his father. I got pg again in nov of that year. During that time he was abusive and I left him in Dec. but he convinced me to give it another shot because "he would be better" Well he was for a while. I got a job since he was unemployed since his last arrest. From their it got easier. He was still WAYYYY controlling but I had a safe haven.
Over the last 3years since my son was 2wks old I have been forced to have sex with him every night. If I said NO(which I did anyways, but if I overly refused) he would want to know who I was having sex with then. He would also keep me up arguing with him until I gave in. It didnt matter if I was tired,sick,had to work in the morning, w.e.
After DD was born i wanted to nurse he so bad, he threatened to cut off my nipples the time he caught me nursing her. I managed to nurse her anyways, after I threatened to have him arrested, he chilled mostly.
I went back to work and was even more tired, and he hinted that I was cheating etc.
Fast forward to this past month::
He started getting abusive towards my son, calling him names, threatening him, holding him down etc. Finally I had enough since he WAS NOT STOPPING, This past Saturday(11/06/10) DS got ahold of a pack of his ciggerettes(2nd time) and broke them to itty bitty peices. When he found them he started threatening to beat the f*ing crap outta him. I tried to calm him down and protect my son, but I failed and DS got a spanking, not horrible but STILL enough. I waited, bided my time till the courthouse was open. Monday, I went and filed for the ex-parte. It was granted.
These last few days have been so great! Just a few minor bumps because of him.
He had his SIL call me for him for his court papers. He emailed me himself, guilt tripping me for "taking his kids away from him at xmas time no less". His pw was saved into my pc and I didnt relize it since I dont use that browser(google chrome), and when I opened it up it was his page and I noticed he had email from his step-sister that was fresh(i didnt relize it wasnt my page until this point). He was feeding her a bunch of BS, basically making himself look great and me look like the liar.
He claims to have never forced me to have sex with him, that had I told him no he would have respected that, he just wanted some attention. That he only spanked DS twice, and that(this is my favorite part BTW) in 13wks(im 19wks pg and go until 39ish wks with both pg) he will find out about paternity, since they suspect I got pg around the time I was cheating(I wasnt). So it makes since as to why his brother said that I lied to get his brother out so that I could move the guy I was cheating with in with me.(I would like to at least know this guys names if hes moving in with me BTW) and all this other BS.