I need help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2004
I need help!
3
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 8:09pm
I am in a situation and I don't know what to do. I have been with bf for 5 years and have a 4 month old son. I am always walking on egg shells for him. I would do anything for him, and do do everything for him. He is verbally abusive to me. I feel like I am going to have a heart attack. I am only 22 years old and I never thought I would be in this situtation. He stays at home with the baby during the week and I work full time and go to school. He calls me at work all the time about how the baby is crying all because of me. He wants me to leave work all the time to go and do what ever he wants me to do. He doesn't understand that I am WORKING. He will call and want the car, I will take him the car and he drives me back to work with the baby in the car CRAZY. He drives 2 inches away from other cars and weives in and out of traffic, screams at the cars and me and makes the baby cry because he is screaming so much. It seems like all he does is try to make me unhappy because he seems unhappy. About 3 months ago he slapped me for the first time. I always told myself that if he ever touched me I would leave. Now that we have a child I don't know what to do. Please Help! He is very vendictive and I am scared to leave him because I don't know what he would do to my family and friends. Help I don't want him to be like that with our child when he gets older!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: micnead
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:28pm

Hi Micnead and welcome -


He sounds scary.

CL-Blueliner4

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: micnead
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 10:58pm
Hello,

I am new to this board,a member since yesterday to be exact ! I have been doing a lot of reading on here, and I always see what good advice you give ( just as you gave to me :)

I am wondering if you would mind sharing with me some of your experiences with your abusive relationship. It seems like you really have your life together now, since you are able to talk all of us thru steps and proceedures.

I would love to know how you handled your situation when you were in it, and how you finally broke free ... that is, if you dont mind me asking !

I think your great, and seem to be a very strong person ~ I am so curious how you got where you are today !

Thanks !!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: micnead
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 2:50pm

Hi Tired -


As requested, here's a link to some of my own personal experiences:


CL-Blueliner4