i need help plz :(

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Registered: 07-05-2004
i need help plz :(
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 11:11am
i wrote my story in the problem solving for couples b4,and i was advised to repost it here to get some good advice,here's my story,i'm 19 years old girl,i've been in love with a guy who loves me too since more than 4 years,we built our relationship on trust,respect,honesty and love,but a week ago and for the first time he is suspicious about me,here's the thing,i was going out with a close friend and her b/f came to meet us at the end for a little while,i asked my b/f for the first time to go with her (although i never go out with any guys except him)and he said it was ok as long as we won't go to cinema with her b/f,anyway i did as he told me,and i asked my friend to make her b/f come for just a little while after the cinema (so as not to disobey or lie to my love),anyway days passed and because he has a very hard kind of job,he works a lot,so i didn't find any chance to tell him,then he asked me about it after three days,he was angry cuz i didn't tell him before he asked and he felt suspicious about me because i didn't talk about it enough and i started getting excited about the new things i bought and started talking to him about some other things,now he is suspicious that that i'm lieng to him about something or disobeyed him and went with them cinema or whatever thing he think happens,i really love him and i know he loves me back,i'm gonna lose him for no real reason,plz plz plz plz plz plz help me,tell me what to do to make him believe me,i never lied to him,i can't go on if i lost him,plz reply me,i'm gonna lose the only one i love,the love of my life and my life itself.

i also would like to know if i'm being threatened by a future verbal or physical abuse :(
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Registered: 01-15-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:02pm
Keep your eyes open at all times. You are young and take it from experiance, you may love him now, but whose to say what you will feel as you grow older. I was with my stbxh since I was 16 and I am now 26 and we have two children. He has always been verbally abusive and in Jan it got physical and I left. We got married thinking it was the right thing to do. If you want to know more or if you need to talk, please email me girley1219@yahoo.com

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 1:23pm

Hi Estrella, and welcome -


You said at the end of your post you don't want to be threatened in the future by verbal or physical abuse.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 1:46pm

Hi estrella...I'm really worried about you because you're talking like you're a slave with all this "obey" and "disobey" stuff like he's your master or something.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou