I need to make HIM leave, not me.
Find a Conversation
I need to make HIM leave, not me.
| Fri, 05-12-2006 - 5:29am |
I have been in a relationship for 2 years. Although his physical attacks have been few his threats and demands for control and dominance are constant. I cannot live like this anymore. He can be so sweet and good but it's just not enough. 8 months ago my mother gave me the house i grew up in for me and my children to escape him. Well, shortly after he was injured pretty badly and couldn't work. He lost his house and was broke and foolish me agreed to let him stay with me temorarily until he got back on his feet. I later was laid off so things have been hard. But he is still here and seems to think we are happy and great although he has managed to once again reduce me to being dependent on him. I no longer have a car, it's been difficult finding a job. I have to ask him for every dollar and usually do not get it. He tries to control my kids and my parenting and run my home. I try to remind him this is my home without angering him but i never succeed. I can't just kick him out. For one thing, I don't know how i would pay the bills or feed my children. But i am also terrified of him. I know what he is capable of and WILL do. So I'm stuck.

Is his name on the deed? Is his name on any of the bills? If not, then I think it is possible to have him removed by the police. If your mother owns the house, she could have him evicted.
There's also, of course, the less complicated approach- wait until he's gone, then change the locks and put his stuff on the porch. It would probably be wise to have some sort of police protection for this, but it could be done.
Check out our board website, accessible through the "Learn more about this community" link at the top of the page. It has tips on how to get through all kinds of situations; yours is surely among them.