I need some insight here..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I need some insight here..
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:22pm
Hello all: stbx had his monthly visitation 2-3 weeks ago and at that time he was proposing a visit to his home state of AZ..I live in SD..well.. in his letter from his atty. He wanted to take them back to AZ for spring break? Well, I am going to NM this upcoming weekend so I proposed that he pick them friday am and return them sun am? I thought this was a good idea..since I will only be 3 hrs from where he's living at now and won't worry so much? Cuz I know they(2 ds and one dd) can get on his nerves on long trips? Well, this last month when he came to visit? The kids asked him if he was gonna pick them up? Well, he didn't ans. I guess. Now, I got an em from my atty and this is how it goes: Did you finalize the AZ visitation w/your husband? Ughhhhhhhhh..I could scream? How dare he? I mean we are still legally married but he's living w/someone else he knows that..how male..of him to say that. MY ex sil em and mentioned that his bro..stbx's didn't mention a visitation just that I was bringing them to NM..He's bugging me to have them for a visit in AZ and uses his parent's as an excuse? Now, he won't pick them up? Is he up to his familiar manipulations again? I already told the atty that I won't be making any more concessions on my side, he knew I was going down there..now it's like 2 days b/f I leave and if he doesn't want to pick them up it's fine w/me. Cuz I told him we already have plans now and I am not gonna change them..so if he's gonna drive all the way to SD next month again. WEll, that is just tough and also he wants them for the summer..well if he doesn't want them now then..I will use that in court that when I try to cooperate w/him he doesn't even make any effort either. Ughh...but do yo have any suggestions, advice, encouragement..anything at all..I don't want my children and I to make plans and the last minute change them b/c of him..you know..Peace/hugs/prayers..I might need those.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:31pm

That sounds exactly like what he's up to, and it wouldn't surprise me.

CL-Blueliner4