I *pray* a friend come to this board ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
I *pray* a friend come to this board ...
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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 2:19pm

I jsut sent her the links here & to sister board. She is a wonderful Mom of 2 young boys - i met her years ago on the Dealing w/ an Alcoholic board. She has been TERRORIZED by her AH for years. He has held a gun to the puppys head telling her he woudl kill it, while she & the boys watched - & he has abused her over & over. He is a complete whack job & SO mnay of us on the baord have been terrified for years for her. Well, last nite was "the worst yet" & she FINALLY had the strength to call 911 & he is in jail. But i can HEAR in her words, her guilt. I am begging her to call me b/c i dont even know if she is pressing charges. Please pray for her, & please give her the best advice (as always you all do) you can in her situation, if she chooses to come here. She is scared. & she is so new to this. I know some of you here may be able to help her see what she NEEDS to do. B/c you have all been there.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:00pm
She is definitely in my thoughts and prayers.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 06-17-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:11pm
I will definatly check that out and post to her. What a horrible thing to have to deal with! One thing you said kind of stands out in my mind though, the fact that you offered your home to her. That is such a wonderful offer, but please be careful. If her AH gets out of jail and tracks her down, you and your daughter could be in grave danger. I actaully just read an article about this at my doctor's office the other day where a woman in an abusive marriage left and stayed with a friend. One night, they went out to get something to eat and when they got home the woman's AH was there waiting for them. He killed the woman she was staying with (who had a 2-year-old son) and almost killed his wife, she barely escaped, before killing himself. I know you are such a caring, wonderful person and you want to help, but please be careful. *hugs*

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:21pm
I can't seem to find the board that she's on. Could you post the link? Thanks!

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 6:27pm
I too read a very similar article just like the one you described a year ago, I think it was in Cosmo.
5yrssm