I really can't stop crying

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Registered: 08-30-2004
I really can't stop crying
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 2:07am
The tears are just never-ending. I feel so empty and lonely. Why is it so hard to leave someone who was so mean to you??????
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Registered: 09-24-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 2:15pm
It is a vicious cycle, the fact is that they weren't always mean to you. You miss the nice part of him. It is natural to grieve the loss of a loved one. Whether they were mean to you or not. You still will cry and mourn the loss of a relationship. Just remember there is a saying that goes something like this "this too will pass"... In the heat of the moment it feels like pure hell and torture to be away from the person. But the more time that passes, the better you will feel and your life will slowly become wonderful again. But you have to want that to make it happen. Stay strong and remember that this is only temporary.
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Registered: 09-17-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 4:04pm
Oh Sweety, it just breaks my heart to read your post. I so know how that feels. I can just feel your heart breaking in your words and I wish I were able to do more for you than to just simply tell you that it WILL get better.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

It is so very hard to be without someone you love, even if he was mean to you, even if he did make your life hell, even with all of the other cruelty you have endured, you loved him and that is part of the reason why you stayed, and that is part of the reason why you cry now. It is hard to start over. It is hard to be alone. It is hard to have everything so drastically changed so quickly once you do decide "this is it" after you have spent so much blood, sweat, and tears building your life around him. What do you do now?

Well, you do exactly what you are doing, you cry, and you post, and you cry some more. And then you get out and take a walk, get some fresh air into your lungs, stop at a park bench, or any bench and just breathe in the crispness of your surroundings, hear your heartbeat pulsing in your ears, birds flying over head, and feel the light on your face.

It is a long road. And sometimes it is a horrible bumpy, wretched road that deceives you into thinking that it would just be so much better if you made a big fat U-turn and went back the way you came... but you have a crowd cheering for you on the sidelines, Crypto, we see your struggle, we know how hard you are working to better your life, and we are all cheering for you SO loudly. The road will even out, sweety. Take care.

jen

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Registered: 08-30-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 9:55pm
Thank you both so much for your kind words. It really helped me feel better... and that part about cheering in the sidelines??? Gave me tears of relief/joy, instead of grief.

Thank you

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:03am
Hi there...I just wanted to add to the posts above.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:02am

Allow yourself to cry.