I think he's taking his anger out on ds!
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| Wed, 05-31-2006 - 5:39pm |
Hi,
I recently got our custody order amended to state that there won't be any contact between me and the ex. Major victory for me, but guess what??? Now I think he's taking his anger out on our son, who's only 5 and who is just about the sweetest little person ever. After we went through the whole boundary-setting issue, I haven't gotten the regular angry emails (he's only allowed to write me once a day now), but my ds came back from his time with his dad completely frantic. He's been fidgeting like crazy, chewing on everything (yes, he has actually been chewing on the wooden side of his bed, among other things). His teacher told me yesterday he has been having to go pee constantly and won't even ask to go, but holds himself and starts shaking all over. He's also been having meltdowns which hasn't happened since he was a toddler. I asked ds what's wrong and he turned away from me.
Ds in in play therapy with someone really nice. But I'd like to know, has anyone else gotten the strong feeling that your abusive ex is taking out his anger towards you out on the kids? And what can I do about this? Help, I really want to shelter my ds from everything. I wish I could be there to protect him all the time. I wish I could take his sadness away.

hon, I'd talk with his therapist immediately.
Thanks again to everyone for your good thoughts.