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| Thu, 08-24-2006 - 3:34pm |
Hi.I have been coming here,because i have had to deal with abuse before,but i now need some input,please.I am very very concerned about my younger sister(sister-in-law).She is married and has two small children,a 6 year old girl and a 4 year old boy.I normally don't use this word,but i hate her husband.
He is very controlling.My sister used to be a beautiful young woman,but any more she lives like white trailer trash.Seriously.My little sister was the type of young woman who always wore makeup,had her nails done every two weeks,changed her clothes twice a day,AND... really took care of her beautiful,long curly hair.
But since she moved to Florida 3 years ago,her whole demeanor has changed.What once was a very happy,smiley,outgoing gal,isn't.She acts terrified.She has stopped calling my husband(her brother)...on the phone just to tell him "I love you".
The last time my husband,MIL and i visited them in Florida,and was sitting with her just talking,we asked her how she was.Her answers were very short,but just not her.
She doesn't work because she is handicapped.She is a little mentally slow due to the fact she was a one pound premature baby.Her husband is very controlling.He buys her clothes from the Salvation Army.The problem with this is she weighs 90 pounds at the most and he buys her extra large clothes.She has one dress and it fits like a potato sack.He on the otherhand works.When he gets paid,its HIS money.They have cockroaches so bad that they are even in the refrigerator.When my neice and nephew visit my BIL,they look like they are starving.The kids are always ill,and have head lice every other week.AND...what makes my blood boil is my neice is in Kindergarten and she cannot talk.When my sister's husband doesn't get up out of bed to help her,some days my neice doesn't go to school.
My sister's husband is always swearing at the kids and threatening to whip them.He is already on probation for spanking his nephew and leaving a handprint on the little boy's derrier that turned into a welt.
Although no one in our family has ever seen any physical signs of abuse,she acts extremely scared to death of him.What do you all think?
My mother-in-law has said Floridas Department

Hi wishful78,
Thank you for your input.My sister's husband just gets upset at the drop of a hat for no reason.He is extremely jealous of everyone around him.
Although we never see any bruises on her,we can only imagine he verbally abuses her,which IMO,is just as bad.You see he has family up here in Michigan,and we know he has threatened to take her kids from her and take them to Michigan.But we aren't going to let him do this.
My poor little sister is so dirt poor.Literally.She gets Social Security and she gets a check twice a month,but she is always broke.They never have food for my niece and nephew.
But when he got an income tax refund of $1400,it was HIS money.He didn't do anything to help his wife and children.He spent all of the refund money to buy knives.Not for eating...the very sharp karate type.Why???No one knows.
And yes red flags are always popping up.He doesn't like me at all because he knows i don't like the way he is towards the family and i tell him like it is.
When i first married my husband
Dear God Dianne, I hope he isn't abusing the kids either.
Wishful78,
CPS has been called on them before.And nothing was done.I feel bad for my sister and the kids.The kids are filthy everyday.They are so dirty that their skin is black from the dirt.And they have head lice too many times.When my sister's husband knows the kids have bad head lice,he takes his clippers and shaves my nieces hair so short(she has shoulder length blonde hair)she looks like she came out of military bootcamp.My nephew just thinks its cool(he's 3).
My sister need to go to counseling to help her deal with the fact she is being abused but doesn't want to face reality.Although we have never seen him hit her,two weeks ago,her little chicken legs were covered in bruises.When she was asked what happened"she fell".I have used that excuse many times waaaay to often when i was married to