I want to leave...

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Registered: 07-25-2004
I want to leave...
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 11:16pm
H and I have been married 2 years and have a 1 yr old daughter. He has always had a drinking problem, getting drunk every other day. About 2 weeks ago I told him I was going to leave him, the next night he drinks excessively and we begin to fight and he chokes me and says I better call someone because he is going to get violent. I call the cops and they take me to a friends house, now she knows and I am so ashamed. The next day he tells me he will never drink again, but he only makes it one week and he has a few beers. Another week and now tonight he is drunk again. I am silly to think things will change aren't I? I want to leave him so badly, but I worry about what will happen to him and where he will go. I make twice as much as he does and there is no way he can survive off of what he makes. I worry if I tell him, so he can plan, then the last few months that we will be here will be hell, that there will be no reason for him to try and stop drinking. Why is it that after all he has done, that I care about what happens to him? He has hit me, shoved me, called me names, hit walls, thrown things, and things seem to get progressively worse. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Registered: 11-12-2004
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 11:32pm
I am in the same situation, cept he was taken away by poilce on assualt charges, but im still worried bout how will he live ect. But it sounds like you maybe need to find a shelter that can help you and your daughter out. She doesnt need to be there. Its scarey thinking about leaving someone and only you can make the decision to go, but I think if it was me, i would leave as soon as a could. As it escalates, things will get worse. This time my husband ripped a door of its hinges and then through my father to the ground. Never hit him just threw him. It was enough for me. I dont want to take the chance that next time he may hit me or through me thru a wall. Im scared as heck being alone, but deep down i know the charges are necessary to my wellbeing. Please be careful. Dont let it go to a hospital stay.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 8:05am

Welcome, Melly.

 

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 8:54pm
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