Im gonna lose my sanity!

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Im gonna lose my sanity!
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 10:53pm
WHEN WILL IT END, hubby came home and said his crew has been changed so the day i was gonna move out (14th) will not be happening!!! Im gonna lose it, when will it end, whenever i get excited, BOOM, the door slams in my face. I had it all planned out, all my movers were ready and everything, now i have no idea when i can go.....hubby might be going on a little trip on his days off around the 12th, so maybe than..i dunno, i got thrown off track, and im back in the hole again!!! not happy, not happy at all, and i dont know what to do!

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:02pm
Ok, this is when you go for Plan B, C, D, E.........so forth and so on.
5yrssm 
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:45pm
thank you, thank you i need you gals so much right now. His next days working wont be till the 21st!?!? but he says he may go away for a day around the 12th.....I HOPE TO GOD HE DOES. Ive just been thrown off track, not only myself, but all the people that are gonna help me move, i dont like to keep changing the dates on them. This is a bump...oh these bumps are starting to tick me off, all i want is out, is this too much to ask. I know Im just freaking out right now, but it just feels like the day will never come.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 8:04pm

Skorpio you said

( I had it all planned out, all my movers were ready
and everything, now i have no idea when i can go )

Yet you seem so very anxious to get out,
So I am a bit confused, but then again I don’t
Know the whole story
Are you trying to get out or are you trying to get
everything out of the house

Randy

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:20pm
Hi, the answer to that question is both. I am trying to do the escape quietly. So Im trying to pack and move out at the sametime when he is gone, this is why i need to know when he will be gone. I already have a place to move into, Im just waiting until hubby will be gone so I can go. Hope that clears it up abit
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Mon, 03-07-2005 - 9:54am

Skorpio,

I tried this escape route for almost 6 years. Once in a while you wake up from this nightmare you are living to make the move. What surprises me now is that I have moved far away and that I lived in these conditions really for 25 years, the last 6 the worst. My son was back and forth the last 6 years and maybe that was my excuse. I really don't know how I lived through it all those years and why I am here today. I finally called his bluff by selling the house (it was never really a home because of him) left the week before we were suppose to be out, my son was back with us at the time, and even though it is really tough going it is better than it was. Now I have to make the choice to be miserable and almost dead or live the beautiful days I have been given. Has the thought been brought up about getting the police involved to follow you to the house and get your belongings so that your don't have to wait another day. I don't know the situations on if you own or rent. I do know for your safety and health it is really impossible to try to live in the same place with these people. It destroys you. Be safe and forgive me for if I am off base with this.

Luv, Sherry

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 9:31pm

Oh no, your not off base, what your saying makes sense, it does ruin a persons health to live in this mess for any amount of time. If I had to wait till the 21st I would take your suggestion, I just know I need to clam down and make another plan, another plan is in the process,the final decsion rides on what hubby is doing this weekened. So i might be able to get out sooner than the 21st. I know that if i can wait it out just a tiny bit longer than ill be free, if it takes one more final week, than let it be. But there is no way i am waiting another month, thats when i draw the line, than plan c comes in, where the police might just have to get invloved, which i hope does not come down to that, but if it does than atleast ill be getting out. I will know more later this week and post it.

ps, we own the house.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:11pm
If you feel like you need to get the police involved, don't hesitate to ask for their assistance, that's their job.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 12-11-2004
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:25pm
thank you, i never really though of getting the police involved, but if i have to go to plan C i will have to, because he will be here. See plan A got thrown out the window, now im gonna go for plan B, if that doesn't work out than plan C is gonna be moving out while he is here, and i will need to get police involved.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:44pm

You may want to check with your local police department
to see how a police assist works where you live.
In some cities with an assist the will only allow you to
take necessities

I hope you get out safe and soon

Hugs

Randy

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Registered: 01-12-2001
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:54pm

How come you have to leave and he gets to stay. Can't you leave and get him out and come back if this is your house two?

Luv, Sherry

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