im leaving

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Registered: 07-18-2003
im leaving
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:23pm
hes stayed home the last couple days (he can work from home if he wants sometimes), i know its because he thinks i will leave. i'm packed and ready and he has no idea, but he hid my keys and i wanted to find them. i looked in his dressers and i found a gun! i didn't think he had one. He knows how much they scare me, i dont know for how long he's had it but that makes me so scared. i found my extra key for my vehicle but when i go the garage will open and it will probably wake him up so he'll know right away. thanks for your thoughts and prayers i'll message whenever i can to let you all know i'm fine. i'm terrified so much but i got to do this he being relentless. Thanks again -jj

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: jj_25
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:56pm
JJ, I'm very glad to see that you have post, and that you have decided to leave. I was thinking, if he took your keys and has them hid, he just might think that he's prevented your leaving him and he might go to his workplace to work, rather than staying at home. If he tries to disconnect the phone, so you can't call from home, wait till he's gone and if you have a neighbor who is close by, go over to their house and call the police and ask for a police escort to take you to a shelter. When the police arrive, tell them that he has been threatening your life, and tell them about how he's punched you in the face, overturned a couch on you, and everything else he's been doing. Then, take the police to his dresser and show them his gun. They may be able to conviscate it, especially if he has it illegally. Please just lay low, and be safe. If he keeps escalating his abuse and doesn't physically go into to his work, is there any way that you can slip outside when he's busy, (if you think it is safe to do so) and quietly go over to one of your neighbors to call for a police escort. You wouldn't even have to have the police pick you up at your house, you could wait for them at the home of one of your neighbors. Then have the police escort you to your house to pick up your things. Just be safe sweetie!

Sherri


Edited 2/25/2004 7:12:22 PM ET by psychick2002

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Registered: 02-24-2004
In reply to: jj_25
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 6:11pm
Hi, today is the 25th and I know you probably won't have the chance to write. I am concerned though. I am new to the board and have been in an abusive relationship. If you are leaving, leave and DON'T go back. Leave when you know it is safe. Don't try and sneak you might get caught and that would only make him worse. You have to contact a neighbor you can trust, where are you going to go? You need to make sure you go some where safe, like a women's shelter, where he can't find you. To be honest hun, I am not telling you to stay IT is great you are leaving, but leaving is the hardest. Abusers are more likely to try and kill there partner when they leave. PLEASE BECAREFUL, I am so concerned. OR WHEN YOU LEAVE CONTACT THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY AND FILE A REPORT. w/b when you can. lol God bless.

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