I'm on my way to happiness finally

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Registered: 12-30-2003
I'm on my way to happiness finally
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 12:00pm
My H and I filed for divorce a month ago, and since then he has been trying to change my mind, with little luck. We are still living together, until hopefully I can get him to move out next week. But, this man, always controlling, decided to try one last time to "win me over". He was talking to me in the bed at nighttime and when I dont say anything for a long time, he drags me off the bed and proceeds to hold me down,pinned underneath him on the floor. This continues for about 10 minutes, with me trying to keep calm because the anger I have is just too strong to let out. He even has the nerve to try and pull off my pj's in hopes of forcing me to have sex with him. And of course, the next day he is sorry and trying to win back my love again. Man, I am so so done with him and now, I dont have any regrets or second thoughts like I did before. I have friends I can turn to , if he keeps bothering me so I am keeping a tight guard up. Its very hard, because he is in such denial of the upcoming divorce. Well, I just wanted to vent and let you all know that there is possible happiness at the end of all this mess. The happiness is that I can be free of this man and of those fears.

strength76
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 7:58pm
Hugs strength. Instead of hopefully getting him out and putting up with his abuse, why not turn to those friends and get out until all this settles? What he is doing is not something you should stay around for. He pins you down, tries to have sex with him, what happens when he loses control even more and possible permanently hurt you?

Just my opinion, but you might want to start protecting yourself better. Use a shelter's resources for legal and theraputic help, sit down with the police, inform them of what is going on and his actions of late. Get as much as this documented as possible. You don't have to have him arrested, but if the police know that if they get a call from that address that domestic violence is accuring there and you will get a faster response time.

You're putting yourself in a very dangerous place and when he's served there is no telling how he will change. Please at least give it some thought, it is your life that you're dealing with.

Stay safe and stay true to yourself

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