I'm new to this board ... Need Help ...

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Registered: 03-30-2004
I'm new to this board ... Need Help ...
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:19am
Hello

After another night of my husband yelling at me calling me every name pushing me around threatning me to break every bone in my body threatning my cats I simply have enough. I decided that it's time to reach out for somebodys help, but online. This is the first time that I reach out on a msg board. I tried to find a way out by myself, without success. I don't want this "relation" with an man who is so totally abusive (verbal). I have to get out of this marriage and start to life again, but how??? I have nobody in this country, originally I'm from Europe, I never worked in this country but would love to get a job. My Husband did not want me to do so, of course it's so much easier to keep somebody down without money, without friends, without anything. My Husband is an alcoholic, retired, no friends, no hobbys, no interest. All he does is drinking and I have to "live" my "life" around his drinking. I tried to understand it, I tried to ignore it, I tried to "fight" it but I simply don't want to life like this anylonger. I was in a shelter and they all where very helpful, but I have 3 - my only friends - cats and I can't let them here with him, they need me and I need them.

Can you help me? Where can I get info's how to get a job how to get an apartment how to get my feeds back on the ground.

Thank you so much for listening and helping me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 7:17am
Even if you can't feel you can stay at a shelter, they can still help you with a lot of information on how to get low cost housing and counseling. They can also probably send you in the right direction for starting a job hunt. You can also look into your local employment office or temporary employment agency to get started. You say he's verbally abusive, but also that he pushed you around. That sounds physical to me, so be careful. Look at the home page for a safety plan. Good luck, keep posting and stay safe.

Jen

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 1:11pm
Hi, don't know that I could help ANY at all, but I'm new to the board, too. I agree with the other reply you've already got about the shelter helping you with finding a job and low-cost housing, and if that doesn't pan out, just start going around to ANY business you think you'd like to work at (even a minimum wage job) and apply. If you explain to them your situation, you may even have a better chance at getting hired. Sorry to hear you're in the same kind of situation I am, but I hope you and your cats can find a way out (I understand because I don't have many friends, but I DO have a dog)

GOOD LUCK!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2003
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 11:11pm

A shelter can definitely give you some great information.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you